Three Ways To Keep Your Standards High
If you've found yourself in a relationship slump, it's easy to lower the bar in order to get a quick date. The problem? Once you've gotten someone, you're left spending time with yet another go-nowhere love interest!
Instead of lowering your expectations to get a date, raise them! Setting a goal you're proud of won't just keep those less-than-stellar dates at bay; it will actually help you get a date by motivating you. It's nice to say you want to lose weight, but until you see that picture of the exact body you want, there's a chance you won't do anything about it. It's the same with dating! Once you see the finish line you want, you're more likely to strive towards it.
In order to keep your keep your eye on the prize, here are three easy ways to keep your standards high while dating:
- Make a list of the things you miss about your ex's.
Nobody wants to intentionally think about what they miss about their ex's because doing so tends to bring up painful memories, but those painful twangs on your heartstrings can be put aside in the name of bettering your dating life. By consciously thinking about what personality traits you were attracted to of your ex's, you're able to gain an understanding of what makes you happy in a relationship. Did they call you often? Let you pick the movie? Surprise you for no reason? These things you loved about your ex aren't exclusive to them, and knowing what they are can help you find them in another. - Make a list of things you didn't like about your ex's.
Just like you can use things you liked about them as a learning tool, you can use things you didn't like about them to learn what you want to avoid in a relationship. Many times when people are in dry spells, they leave their expectations at the door and date the first person who comes along, regardless of how poor of a fit they are. Think about things you don't like about your ex's-- Things like them being chronically late, flirting too much with others, and even what they're like around their friends-- and hold steady on the grounds that you're not going to date someone with these traits again. They say it's the little things that count, and there's a good chance that all these little things added up to be the reason for your breakup. By dating people with the same traits, you're setting yourself up for failure. - Make a (realistic) list of your ideal partner and don't settle for less!
Dry spells come and go, but getting stuck in a bad relationship can have effects that last a life time. Take everything you want and don't want in a match and don't settle for less! It's important that you spend your time with someone you feel deserves to be with you, otherwise you're wasting your time and theirs.
Don't settle for the first person who comes along! Keep your standards high so when you finally do choose a match, you'll know they'll be around for a long time to come!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
If you haven't checked the calendar yet, you still have a pretty good chance at knowing what day it is based solely on couples being overly-happy and singles being unusually bitter.
The calendar shouldn't determine when you have sex, but it's natural to be a bit more anxious to want to get in between the sheets on February 14th.
If you're heading to Sex Search to find your perfect match for Valentines Day, take our tips on how to prepare a special evening for a special occasion!
Set the mood
It's surprising, but candles go a long way. Most people are under the impression that romance takes time and money, but they're strongly mistaken. Something as simple as lighting a few candles in the room and dimming the lights gives a romantic illusion. Why not give your Valentine the thought of extra effort without actually having to make any?
Gwyneth Paltrow Is Trying To Get You Laid
Gwyneth Paltrow is a pretty busy woman. She's an Academy Award winner, a mother, a wife to one of the busiest guys in the music industry Chris Martin, and an active blogger. Now she's adding one more thing to her list of accomplishments: Pimp.
Alright, maybe 'pimp' is an exaggeration. Is she standing on the street corner hailing down guys looking to have a good time? No. But she is going out of her way to try and get you laid on Valentine's Day!
If you're a subscriber to Paltrow's weekly e-mail, GOOP, there's no doubt that you're familiar with her usual banter: Pictures of her life to motivate you via jealousy, recipes to keep you skinny (because we all know she hates fat people), and tips on the next-best thing in the fashion industry. But the actress herself claims that this week's e-mail isn't for you, "It's for your other half."
If you're looking to get laid tomorrow, Gwennie has a few tips to jump-start your V-Day success!
You’re Not The Only One Not Having Sex
It's not uncommon to envy the love lives of celebrities. With people constantly throwing themselves at Hollywood stars hoping to get a piece of their D-List action, it's hard to believe that they're not constantly having sex.
But fear not, my bitter friends, because it turns out all that sex the stars are having is just in your head. A new study actually shows that the more famous you are, the less sex you're likely to have.
Courtney Cox, former Friends star and ex-wife of David Arquette, is undeniably one of the hottest women in Hollywood today, so when she announced on the Howard Stern show this week that she hasn't had sex in over a year, it was a little hard to believe. An A-List celebrity who had men drooling over her every day hasn't gotten laid since she divorced her husband? How could that be?
The University of Chicago in Illinois has conducted a study that shows the busier your life is, the less likely you are to be getting laid on a regular basis, especially if you're not in a relationship.
So how can you use this to your advantage?
Send Your Hottest Sext
Chances are most of the people you meet online aren't going to be from your town. And you know what that means-- Long distance. When you've finally found someone you enjoy spending time with (and more importantly, someone you enjoy sleeping with), it can get a little frustrating having to be so far from them for lengthy periods of time.
Which is why sexting was invented.
If you're planning on keeping the fire alive while facing the challenge of not being in the same town, you're probably going to get really familiar with sexting really quickly, and you're going to want to do it right. One wrong sext can haunt you forever (just ask Scarlett Johansson!), so getting the basics of a sexy self-taken nude photo right is crucial to keeping you on their mind.
So what's the secret to a perfect sext picture?
Look good!
There aren't many times where our Sexperts will tell you that looking good is important, but let's face it-- The only point of a sext is to turn someone on by how you look, so you better look your best! Make sure your cash and prizes are trim and looking good. After all, it's your family jewels you want them looking at!
Things You Should Never Say To Someone You’re Hooking Up With
When you have the luxury of having a friend with benefits, you need to insure you're not going to mess it up. Having someone who's committed to sleeping with you but doesn't make you do 'couple' activities is the ultimate scenario, but it's easy to ruin.
If you want to insure that you're not going to scare away your FWB with something you say, here are the 5 topics you should avoid!
"Who's that girl you're texting??"
The point of keeping around a buddy to sleep with is to avoid the emotional attachments that come with conventional relationships, and jealousy is definitely one of the emotions people want to avoid. If you find yourself bordering on jealousy when it comes to your sex partner, take a moment to step back and ask yourself why you're feeling this way. If you're caring about what they're doing with other people, chances are you're more emotionally invested in them than you'd like to admit. If you want them to know it bothers you that they're flirting with other people, you're going to have to be ready to cut the friends with benefit ties and step into relationship territory. If you want to keep things the way they are, then you're going to have to keep your jealousy concealed!
How To Get A One Night Stand
It's the ultimate dream for anyone looking to have sex: Getting laid with no strings attached and no commitments for the future. A pump 'em and dump 'em scenario that allows you to get what you're looking for without all the mess of having to try and develop a relationship afterwards.
That's why one night stands are so sought after by the single community! You get to get in, get off, and get out without worrying about hurting anyone's feelings.
When it comes to one night stands, how do you know who's game? How do you find someone to have one with? How do you get it done?
Spotting People Who Are DTF
When you go to a bar or sign up for an online hookup site like Sex Search, the ones who are most likely to go home with you aren't always the easiest to spot. The good news is there are signs! Look for people who are in big groups of people of the same sex. Sure people have friends of the opposite sex, but studies show that people of both sexes are 85% more likely to use a wing-man of the same sex, which means there's a bigger chance of them looking to get laid if they're with the same gender.
Feel Sexier Naked
Meeting people to have sex with online is easy. Within a few minutes of signing up for a site like Sex Search, you can find dozens of people to hook up with offline. With the advancement of digital dating, finding people will never be the problem again-- The troubles come when you're actually together. After all that pre-lonely-Valentine's-Day chocolate you've been eating (not to mention how much free food will be around this weekend for Super Bowl Sunday), it's probably safe to assume most people aren't in their best shape.
If you've let more than a little winter weight to cling to your hips, how can you feel your best when you have no clothes on to hide your insecurities?
We have the 5 best ways to feel good when you're in the buff!
Want To Last Longer In Bed? Listen to Music!
New studies have been released claiming that listening to music while working out can help you work out longer. Why? Music gives you something to concentrate on other than your body. It helps you forget about your muscle tension and the burn from your exercise, and having a rhythm to concentrate on can even help regulate your breathing.
So what does this have to do with sex? When you strip away the pleasure, sex is little more than a great cardio workout. With that logic, is it possible that listening to music can help improve your sexercise?
Doctors are now saying that one of the best natural battles against early ejaculation is to simply pump the music during intercourse.
How To Seduce Someone Before Valentine’s Day
There's three days out of the year where nobody wants to be alone: Christmas, your birthday, and in three short weeks when Valentine's Day rolls around.
Nothing says 'This is how single I am' quite like heating up a TV dinner for one while happy couples around the world celebrate their love together. If you want to make this Valentine's Day better than V-Days past, you'll need to get laid.
And we have a few ideas on how you can get that done.
Groom Yourself!
Valentine's Day isn't just lonely for you-- It's lonely for all singles. That means that even the people who are usually content with being single are on the hunt for a little romance. In the upcoming weeks, put your best foot forward: Iron your wardrobe, keep yourself shaved, and look your best! People in your every day life are going to get their first impression of you based on your appearance. Keeping yourself looking prim and proper will give you a better chance at attracting pray!