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The Kim Kardashian/ Ray J sext tape may be one of the most famous celebrity sex tapes of all time, but unlike the Pam/ Tommy and Paris/ Whoeverthatguywas tapes, Kim’s tape doesn’t act as a raw how-to for the bedroom. In fact, experts say that Kim makes some of the most common mistakes that females make in the bedroom.

With so much talk surrounding the tabloid princess and her now infamous tape, it’s only natural for people to be curious enough to see what all the fuss is about. So why not turn your porn watching pleasure into a cautionary tale? Instead of just watching the video to see what Kim is willing to do in the sack, our Sexperts have pointed out the top three things for you to see what not to do while having sex.

Ditch The ‘Baby, Baby, Baby’ Talk

When you’re having sex, your vocabulary is rarely a main concern. Between the overwhelming physical sensations you’re experiencing and the mental nirvana your mind is preoccupied with, it’s easy to see why people get carried away using the same phrases over and over again in bed. Things like “Oh my god,” “Holy fuck!” and several other claims of elation now have a common place in the bedroom, but there’s still one that’s so tabu that it’s widely considered a turn off for men, and Kim uses it a lot. So what’s the magic word that can turn him off as quickly as you’ve turned him on? ‘Baby’. A survey conducted by GQ Magazine showed that not only do 64% of men say they’d prefer a woman not call him baby in bed, but 27% of them actually said it’s one of the least sexy things a woman could do. Many men feel that being given the ‘baby’ title is emasculating, and the video has Kim saying it time and time again. When you’re having sex, make sure you’re not turning him off while trying to turn him on. Be cautious of what you’re saying!

He Doesn’t Need An Ongoing Report  Card

Everyone likes hearing they’re doing a good job at something, but offering constant encouragement can come across as patronizing. Throughout her tape, Kim is constantly telling Ray J that what he’s doing is ‘So good.’ Do guys like knowing that you’re enjoying yourself? Of course. Would they like to be told so? Definitely. Do they need to hear it through the entire act? Absolutely not. Experts say that if a man is constantly being reminded that he’s doing a good job, it actually puts more pressure on him to perform.

“When a man is told what he’s doing feels good, it raises the bar of what he would like to do,” says sex therapist Michelle Langlam. “Men always want to go above and beyond, so telling them that they’re doing well in bed makes them want to do better. When that’s the case, they stop concentrating on enjoying their experience and set their focus on going harder, doing better, and pleasing his woman more. Even if he doesn’t consciously notice it, being told that he’s doing a good job is actually going to allow him to enjoy the act less.”

Instead of telling him he’s doing good, give a simple moan or groan to let him know you’re enjoying what he’s doing. That way he’ll know you’re having a good time and won’t feel any added pressure to perform.

He Tarzan, You Not

Everyone has their own expression of euphoric experiences behind closed doors, but some of them are downright unsexy! In Kim’s video, one of the worst mistakes she makes is her tribal grunt. Many women turn professional-tennis-player loud when letting out their excitement, but it doesn’t always end up coming out as the sexiest sound. If you’re going to be loud and proud with your orgasms, make sure you don’t end up scaring him off while doing so! Ditch Kim’s tribal grunt for a classier and subtler sound.

So there we have it! The three things that Kim (and most other women) does in bed. Avoiding them will increase your experience and make you a bigger bedroom star than a Kardashian!