Since casual sex started becoming socially acceptable, there’s been one general rule that goes unspoken, but widely known: Don’t have sex on the first date if you want the relationship to go somewhere.
Most people have the notion that if you put out on a first date, the person you’re dating is going to think you’re easy and get turned off. And they’re not wrong! A 2001 study show that 40% of women won’t consider seeing a man again if they sleep together on a first date, and an astonishing 70% of men won’t consider the same!
Now that the University of Iowa is claiming that having sex on a first date can actually lead to a longer and more meaningful relationship, what are we do believe?
The fact is the above study was, as stated, from 2001, which was 10 years ago. Times have changed! In that same study, those statistics are now 23% for women and 30% for men. That means that more people will actually consider taking the relationship further if you’ve slept together on the first date then if you haven’t!
For some people, sex is purely a physical act, but for most, it comes with emotional connections. If you weren’t emotionally attached to someone beforehand, chances are you will be in some way after engaging in sexual activities with them. What can this do for your dating life? It can speed up the process.
Instead of waiting until your third or fourth date to be intimate and reach a new level with each other, doing it on the first date can open the door to more honest conversation and body language, which may pave a smoother road in your dating life.
Sex on the first date isn’t for everyone, but it’s also not something you should throw away the idea of! Having sex early on may be exactly what you need to jumpstart your relationship.
Of course it all depends on that first few hours together. I would have to have had a very good laugh that was frm down in. I would hope that my friend and co contributer has that type of laugh,and the rule if its not fun lets not do it. I am one to have a lot of spontanuity and that always gets the nerves of fun usually jumping. It has to come from the heart and the ones in control of those encounters have the final say. I really would have to have a very special partner to engage on the first date,but I am open for what ever takes us along that special road. We will know..
Shoot, so that’s that one spupeoss.
Halleljuah! I needed this—you’re my savior.
This inforaimotn is off the hizool!