Spring Has Sprung– And So Has Your Sex Drive

Posted on March 27, 2013 by Quinn

Top sexual research experts at Harvard University, The University of California, Miami State University along with multiple other prominent research facilities have found undeniable signs that both singles and people in relationships have a significantly lower amount of sex than they do during the rest of the year. So naturally with the dawning of spring comes the reawakening of your long lost libido! If you’re a little rusty from a winder of little sex, how do you get back into the swing of things in a comfortable way?

Our Sexperts have compiled a list of the 5 must-do’s to get back into a sex routine!

STRETCH!!! …Seriously though, stretch.
Let’s face it, we all get a little lazier in the winter. With the cold weather promoting us to spend more time on our couches and the icy sidewalks convincing us to take the subway to work, our bodies can get a little stiff over the season. Whether you do an in-home yoga routine or you head to the gym to limber up, giving your body the chance to stretch is a big must before diving back into bed.
Drink lots of water
Hydration isn’t only great for your skin, but being properly hydrated gives your body better stamina, making it more likely that you’ll last longer in bed. Continue reading →

The Blessing Is A Curse: Why Having A Big Dick Can Hinder You In Bed

Posted on March 4, 2013 by Quinn

If you’re a frequent SexSeacher, there’s no doubt you’re already familiar with our newest addition to the SS team, Erika Jordan. Erika is one of the biggest know-it-all’s about sex in the best way possible. She’s experienced nearly everything in the sack, so she has intimate knowledge of almost any sex question you could have. That’s why we’ve brought her on to answer any and every question you have about love, lust, and everything that goes on in between.

This week we had a question from someone with a very large problem. To put it the most delicate way possible, he’s a little too well endowed and women have a hard time receiving what the good lord game him.

We know that most men without this problem would love to have it, but men who are effected by it generally whistle a different tune. While a slightly larger than normal penis is generally pleasurable in bed, a too-big penis can be extremely painful for someone who isn’t used to the size.

So what can you do if you go into a sexual situation knowing that your member might be a bit much to take?

Have realistic expectations
If this is the first time you and your lady are getting naked together, don’t expect intercourse. The human body is only designed to take so much, and if she hasn’t had the chance to adjust, then diving in isn’t really an option. Thinking that you’re in for a passionate night may leave you disappointed, so don’t go into it with high expectations.
Have her do a little homework
When you’re in school, you do homework so when the big test comes around you’re ready. That’s exactly what she’ll have to do here. Have her physically prepare herself with the help of dildos and stretchers so you don’t injure her during the big moment.
Be comfortable with oral sex
Oral sex is a two way street. If you’re not planning on giving her something that will leave her satisfied, don’t expect the same in return! Chances are until she’s prepared for your size you’ll be stuck in Blow Job City, which can very quickly become vacant if you’re not willing to give her the same! Go down on her as much as she goes down on you so you can continue to get your jollies off.
Have patience!
Some women’s bodies can adjust within a day, and some can take weeks. Whatever you do, don’t force the issue. You’ll have to trust her word on when she’s ready, otherwise you’ll run the risk of simply not getting laid at all.

Want to know Erika’s tips on dealing with a big dick? Check out her video on the subject under the cut! Continue reading →

Look Sexier Naked By Valentine’s Day… Without Working Out!

Posted on February 11, 2013 by Quinn

With Valentine’s Day a mere three days away, hitting the gym isn’t going to help you very much with looking better by Thursday. But you don’t need to lower the scale in order to feel slim and sexy for the big day. In fact, in a poll by Maxim Magazine in 2012, nearly 88% of men say they prefer women with a little extra cushion, so if you’re still feeling the Christmas weight, don’t sweat it!

Our Sexperts have the top 5 ways to look sexy without having to hit the gym for the big day-o’-love!

GET A SPRAY TAN
Before you roll your eyes and move on to the next step, hear us out: A tanned body is twice as likely to look toned than pale skin does, and spray tans don’t cause the negative side-effects that tanning beds do, like melanoma. We’re not suggesting that you go out and Jersey Shore your body, so don’t worry about looking orange. Most tanning studios that offer spray tans allow their clients to choose from a variety of tones and shades, so you’ll get your desired look without having to spend weeks in the bed.
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It’s Quitting Time: Your Job Is Ruining Your Sex Life

Posted on January 28, 2013 by Quinn

If you don’t like your job, then this news isn’t going to make that any better: New studies from the University of Montana show that there’s a major link between erectile dysfunction and career related stress.

According to a new research study of men who suffered from chronic ED that spanned over 4 years, nearly 90% of them had something in common that had nothing to do with their physical health: They all hated their jobs.

“People tend to underestimate just what a stressful work environment can do to their physique,” says Jessica Robson, a professor at the Montana school. “Having work-time stress doesn’t only effect you during your 9-5. It forces your body to become accustomed to a higher blood pressure that can effect your sexual performance.”

Not exactly what men want to hear, but the good news is there’s a solution: Yoga.

“We challenged the men who experienced ED as a side effect of an overly stressful lifestyle to spend at least 5 hours a week practicing yoga, and the changes in the way their bodies performed were phenomenal,” said Robson.

According to the study, the advantages that yoga offers to men suffering form ED are greater than most medications prescribed for the problem.

In fact, men not only saw better results from yoga than they did with meds, but they saw longer lasting results. Where medications provided a temporary fix for ED, yoga helped increase the stamina and ability to get an erection for extended periods of time. And not only will it help you last, it will likely make you better in bed. The strengthening and muscle toning that comes along with yoga training allows you to get into positions you otherwise wouldn’t have been able to attempt.

If you’re not ready to say goodbye to your salary, hit up the yoga studio! It will help you get hard and can make you last longer than you’re used to and will give you an entirely new outlook on your born-again sex life.

Don’t Get Te’O'd: How To Know If You’re Talking To Real People Online

Posted on January 18, 2013 by Quinn

In a cartoon published in New York Magazine in October 1993, two dogs sat at computers where one looks at the other and says, “On the Internet, no one knows you’re a dog.”

If you haven’t heard the explosive news of university football all-star Manti Te’O and his fake dead girlfriend by now, then you’re behind on the times. To make a long story short, a top rated university could-be-an-NFLer football player was duped into thinking that his girlfriend (who he became famous for kicking ass in games in honor of that girlfriend after she died of leukemia in September) was a loving Stanford student for the two years of their relationship when, in reality, she didn’t exist at all. As it stands right now, it looks as though a male friend/fan of Te’O's may have been pretending to be his online girlfriend the entire time, creating an elaborate hoax that roped him into a fake relationship.

How can you protect yourself from getting duped into talking to someone who isn’t who they say they are? Our Sexperts have compiled the biggest red flags for people who are involved in online relationships:

1. Always, always Skype.
Experts say that if they’re not willing to Skypecomputer dating there’s likely something they’re trying to hide, especially if they’ve already sent you photos. “When someone sends you photos but is unwilling to video chat, it’s likely they’re not the people they’re claiming to be. Not having a web cam is not a valid reason: In 2013, everyone has access to the ability to video chat,” says our Sexpert.

2. Do a reverse picture lookup.
Did they send you photos of themselves? Can you see their profile pictures? Do a reverse photo lookup on Google to see if there are any other matches for those pictures. If you find the images under different names, it’s likely you’re being duped.

3. Research them a little.
So they’ve told you where they work, where they went to school, who their friends are… Look that up a little. On the MTV show Catfish, that’s usually the host Nev’s first clue as to having a liar on the line: Their jobs, friends and hobbies aren’t who they claim to be.

If you cover these bases, you’re likely to find definitive answers as to the validity of your online love.

What Do You Wish You Knew About Sex Before Losing Your Virginity?

Posted on January 9, 2013 by Quinn

We all stress over our first time having sex before we actually get around to doing the dirty. Thinking about if it will hurt, how long it will last, what will happen when it’s done– Sexual experiences for the first time are a world of questions that you simply don’t know the answers to.

Well the users of Reddit, a public forum that covers any and every subject under the sun, asked each other what they wish they knew before they had sex for the first time, and their answers ranged from surprising to inspiring to downright accurate.

See what people from all over the world had to say about it!

“There is no perfect moment for the first time so don’t plan it. If you are planning it on a specific time you are under pressure and it won’t meet your expectations by any mean.” -cruzer71

“If you think someone can hear you, they can probably hear you.” -cute_as_corgis

“Muscular endurance. Once your arms start to shake it gets hard to focus.” -Doomskank

“That the person I’m having sex with wants to see me naked and I shouldn’t be having a heart attack about what they think since they already want it.”- wellwhatishername Continue reading →

Get Engaged Over Christmas? You Might Want To Sign Up For Sex Search Now And Save Yourself Time In The Future: Christmas Engagements Are Likely To Fail

Posted on January 2, 2013 by Quinn

If you’re already sick of seeing engagement announcements on your Facebook page from friends and colleagues who had the question popped over the holidays, you can put away your envy: A new study reveals that couples who get engaged within three weeks of Christmas are more likely to fail than those who get engaged at any other point of the calendar year.

The University of North Carolina has published findings stating that nearly 40% of all engagements taking place near Christmas will end before they make it to the isle, and nearly 80% of all Christmas engagements end in divorce.

What’s the cause for such a high failure rate? According to the college, men are less likely to think through their decision to wed when asking their brides-to-be around the holiday season.

“Much like singles feel the pressure to find a relationship around the holiday, couples often feel pressure to take their relationship a step further,” says study head and professor of psychology Erica Armstrong.

When the holidays come around, men often struggle to find appropriate gifts for women they’re in serious relationships with. Armstrong suggests that many men settle on the idea of a proposal as a Christmas surprise as they think it will make for a romantic surprise, but Christmas proposals are often not thought through in the long run.

“Men concentrate so much on having a romantic gesture during the holidays that they don’t put much thought into what follows with the commitment they’re making,” says Armstrong. “Most people who propose near Christmas are looking to have a proposal, not a marriage.”

Translation: If you get engaged around Christmas, you’re probably going to be single before long!

If you are one of the near 3.2 million couples who were given an engagement ring in December (this according to a New York Times article that was published this week), what can you do to make sure your engagement will turn into a lasting marriage? Simple: Plan for it!

The study went on to show that the men who planned the proposal based on the relationship and not on the time of year were twice as likely to have a successful marriage. Before you pop the question, think beyond the big moment: Do you want a marriage, or do you just want an easy present to give to your significant other? If it’s the former, enjoy the wedding! But if it’s the ladder, take advantage of the Sex Search Christmas sale prices– You’ll be glad you did in a few months from now!

Are You Wrapping It Up Properly? New Study Shows Most People Use Condoms Wrong

Posted on December 29, 2012 by Quinn

There’s good news in the world of STD prevention: The number of condoms sold in the United States rose by 25% in 2011. So either one lucky guy who practices safe sex is having a lot more of it, or more men are smartening up about their sexual health.

Unfortunately, many of those men (maybe even you) are making crucial mistakes when it comes to condom use. Strapping it on and giving ‘er a go doesn’t fit the bill anymore– You need to make sure you’re doing it right!

These are the top 5 condom mistakes guys make without even knowing it, and what you can do to make them right:

You’re not leaving space at the tip
Sure it looks a little odd having extra latex space between your weenier and the end of the condom, but that small bit of space is going to be what keeps the condom working. That space is crucial for the seamen to have a place to go. Your little fellas swim so fast out of your body that if you don’t leave enough space (at least quarter of an inch), they’re likely to break the condom. 24.3% of unplanned pregnancies caused while wearing a condom were reported to have been caused because of this issue.
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Got Cologne? Spritz It Up, Fellas! New Studies Show Women Are Attracted To Men Who Wear Perfume

Posted on December 22, 2012 by Quinn

Alright fellas, let’s envision your next date night: You dress up, shave nicely, do your hair and maybe even wear the nice shoes you’ve been waiting for a good excuse to break out. But unless you’re taking this extra key step, you may be getting in your own way of getting laid.

What’s that step, exactly? It’s simple: Putting on perfume.

Seriously.

“Smell, sex and memory centers share close quarters in the brain, the scent of arousal leaves the most lasting impression,” said a staff writer over at Ask Men. Women associate scent with sex so strongly that they often aren’t capable of reaching the height of their satisfaction unless they can smell something familiar and arousing.

According to new studies, a quick spray of cologne may be the easiest way to turn on your woman. But now that you know the trick, how do you execute it? What should you wear? Dr. Frank Menula says that no matter what you put on, it should always have the same base: musk.

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Condoms 101: Back To Basics

Posted on November 27, 2012 by Quinn

According to the New York Times, less than half the schools in North America now provide sexual health and education to their students. Although many political figures (as well as a majority of the Catholic School Boards across the United States) have said that refraining from teaching sex ed will promote abstinence, that doesn’t seem to be the case: 2010 and 2011 had higher rates of teen and early 20′s pregnancies than any other years in history. And, for all the naysayers who will attribute it to people getting married at a younger age, nearly 80% of all the babies born to teen and early 20′s parents in 2011 were born out of wedlock.

It’s easy to assume that these kids are simply not using protection, but Trojan Condoms showed an increase in sales for people between 18 and 25 in 2012, which leads us to a pretty obvious conclusion: People are simply using condoms wrong.

When you’re not taught proper use of condoms in school, chances are you’re going to go the rest of your life putting on your condoms as you always have: Improperly.

Our Sexperts have decided to take it back to to the basics of condoms to show our Sex Searchers exactly what they need to do to ensure they’re being fully protected.

Put it on before you start
A staggering 42% of men in a survey conducted by Vogue Men said they prefer sex without condoms. That’s a whole lot of babies waiting to happen, and even more STDs waiting to get contracted. The survey found that some men dislike the feeling of condoms during intercourse so much that they don’t actually wrap their tool until they’re close to ejaculation. If this is your method, you need to rethink your game. First of all, those condoms will do absolutely nothing to prevent you from STDs if you put them on after already beginning intercourse. Secondly, precum can get a woman pregnant just as easily as cum can. It’s a slight release of ejaculate before the male actually climaxes, so most of the time you can’t feel when it’s about to happen, or even when it’s happening. If you want to stay protected, put on the rubber before you start rocking. Continue reading →

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