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Spring Has Sprung– And So Has Your Sex Drive

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Top sexual research experts at Harvard University, The University of California, Miami State University along with multiple other prominent research facilities have found undeniable signs that both singles and people in relationships have a significantly lower amount of sex than they do during the rest of the year. So naturally with the dawning of spring comes the reawakening of your long lost libido! If you’re a little rusty from a winder of little sex, how do you get back into the swing of things in a comfortable way?

Our Sexperts have compiled a list of the 5 must-do’s to get back into a sex routine!

  1. STRETCH!!! …Seriously though, stretch.
    Let’s face it, we all get a little lazier in the winter. With the cold weather promoting us to spend more time on our couches and the icy sidewalks convincing us to take the subway to work, our bodies can get a little stiff over the season. Whether you do an in-home yoga routine or you head to the gym to limber up, giving your body the chance to stretch is a big must before diving back into bed.
  2. Drink lots of water
    Hydration isn’t only great for your skin, but being properly hydrated gives your body better stamina, making it more likely that you’ll last longer in bed.  Continue reading →

Going Through A Divorce? Here’s What Not To Do When Dating Online During A Divorce

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The internet is a great place for soon-to-be divorcees. It’s estimated by Yahoo! News that over half of all divorcees in the United States use an online dating site to connect with other people going through divorce to seek advice and to simply connect. Although finding new people online is a great way to get over the heartbreak of a failed marriage, there are some snags that can derail your happiness along the way.

While on the Dr. Phil show Scott Trout, a managing partner for the law firm of Cordell & Cordell P.C, discussed the most common mistakes people make online while going through divorce. It’s not a commonly known fact, but your ex’s divorce attorney can actually use content you’ve posted online against you in divorce cases. If you’re planning on exploring your online options before your divorce is finalized, stray away from these sticky situations:

  1. Don’t talk about new purchases.
    As soon as someone buys a new car, moves into a nicer place, or even goes on vacation, it’s common for them to stick pictures of it online. Who wouldn’t want their potential dates to know how well they’re doing on their own? But according to Trout, this will come back to bite you. High priced items you post online can be used against you in claims that you can’t afford alimony or child support.
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Are Your Nudes Making Their Rounds On The Internet?

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Sending naked pictures of yourself to people you’re having a sexual relationship with online can add a little spice to the conversation, but at what cost? New reports are saying that nearly all sexually driven photos sent to people online are seen by people the author did not intend them to be seen by.

The New York Times recently did a study on the increasingly popular trend of nude photos leaking online. When the subject of the picture, almost nine of every ten instances the photos were obtained illegally through e-mail or cell phone hacking, but when the subject was a non-famous person who voluntarily sent the photos to someone online, an astonishing 90% of the time, those photos were distributed by the original recipient of them.

With so many men and women alike requesting sexually provocative photos from people they’re dating online, how do you deal with the pressure to take the pictures? If you think you can trust the person, should you send them? What are the chances of them actually leaking online?

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Keep The Heat In Your Long Distance Relationship This Winter

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Chances are if you met your adult friend online, there are going to be times that the two of you have to maintain a long distance relationship.

If you’re faced with being hours apart every day, you need to put in extra effort to make your relationship work.

“Some separation can be good for a relationship because you get the chance to miss each other, but, no matter how much you’re in love, it’s important to do some creative stuff to stay connected,” says therapist and author of The Commuter Marriage: Keep Your Relationship Close While You’re Far Apart, Tina Tessina.

According to Tessina, you can’t let long distance relationships develop naturally the way you would a normal relationship, as you don’t have the physical interaction to stimulate your thoughts and feelings towards each other.

So how do you keep things hot when it’s cold and you’re alone? Check out Sex Search’s tips for keeping your flame alive!

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Ways To Get Yourself Rejected

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As an adult, you know that if you touch a stove top while it’s on, you’re going to get burnt, which is why you know not to touch them. How is this relevant to online dating? Once you know what people don’t want to see, you’ll know exactly what to avoid in your inaugural message to prospective dates.

There are countless advice columns on what you should do when you send out your first message online, but very few look into what you shouldn’t do. Before you log in to Sex Search and start your dating journey, take a look at things you don’t want to do when sending that ever important first message.

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Are More People Looking For Dates Or Sex Online?

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Screen shot 2011 11 01 at 5.42.17 PM Are More People Looking For Dates Or Sex Online?

When you’re looking for something online, you turn to the only trusted search engine left: Google! Whether you’re looking for a new pair of Jimmy Choos or the name of the background actor in the last How I Met Your Mother episode, chances are you’re going to go to Google’s website to find what you’re looking for. And when it comes to online relationships, that’s no different.

Google releases an annual report for the most searched topics every year, and for the past decade, online dating has been on the top of that list. Scattered throughout has been other popular-at-the-time topics like Backstreet Boys, Christian Bale’s freak out and Rebecca Black, but no other searched topic has as much staying power as relationships.

Even though people are still looking for online dating, there’s something making its way to the top of the most-searched list lately: free sex.

Between 2005 and 2008, there was a significant spike in people using online dating sites, but in the last three years it’s started to level out. Not because people have stopped looking, but instead of looking for just dates, they’re narrowing down their search field to exactly what they want. That’s why there’s also an obvious increase of people surfing the net for sex.

If you’re looking for something specific, you have to become one of those people who have refined their searches. If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, your approach should be vastly different than it would be if you were looking for a one-night hookup. Things like your profile pictures, about me, interests and even your user name should be different from each other because you need to target yourself to your desired audience.

The broader you try to be, the harder it’s going to be to attract people to your profile. Keep your search narrow and you’ll increase your success rate!

Make Sure Your November Isn’t One Big Dry Spell

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Yesterday we brought you the news that Halloween is one of the biggest conception days of the year, so it’s a little surprising to hear that November is the month where statistically people have the least sex.

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Why? Well, it’s a mixture of things, but at the top of that list is a simple stress that plagues us all in November: Holiday pressure. People get so concentrated on their upcoming money woes that they put sex on the back burner. Not to mention, with Thanksgiving and the extra winter weight people tend to start packing on, most men and women are more self-conscious of their looks, and much less confident to go out and pick up an adult friend.

So what can you do to make sure you’re not a part of November’s dry spell?

Utilize your online dating account
A lot of people sign up for online dating simply out of curiosity.  You’ve already done the hard part by signing up, you might as well make your efforts of logging in worth while! Find people you’re attracted to and actually put in an effort to talk to them and hookup.

Don’t let yourself go
Are looks crucial in dating? Of course not. But do they help? Oh yah, you better believe it! While everyone is letting themselves go in November, you can keep yourself looking your best to insure that you’ll stand out above the rest.

Forget about your money troubles
Your money has nothing to do with your sex life, so don’t mix the two! When you’re looking to get laid, don’t be thinking about all the cash you’re going to have to spend while holiday shopping the next day. Enjoy the moment you’re in and forget about the rest!

Don’t concentrate on getting laid
The more you think about something, the higher you set the bar. The more you think about getting laid, the more pressure you’re putting on yourself to get it. Put intercourse out of your mind! Start talking to others on a social level and sex will come a lot easier.

Here’s to conquering November’s dry spell!

Think You’re The Only Single Parent Online? Think Again

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When parents are looking for sex through an online dating site, it’s normal for them to feel a little odd for doing it. After all, when you’re a parent, your daily life consists more of making lunches than making love.

The good news is that you’re not alone! Although you may feel like you stick out as the only mom or dad trying to hookup online, you’re far from it. New numbers are showing that in users 35-45, nearly half of all registered online daters are single parents looking to have a second go at it!

According to the online dating database, single parents are almost as common as divorcees, who make up a majority of the online dating pool after the age 35.

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From ages 25-35, single parents make up 18.6% of paid dating sites and 29.4% of free dating sites, and those numbers rise with age! Single parent daters aged 35-45 make up 44.3% of paid sites and 49.2% of free ones, and parents aged 45+ make up approximately 40% of both paid and free sites.

At Sex Search, we have parents signing up daily! Feeling as though you’re the only parent online is nothing more than insecurities.

There’s been a common pattern in the last few years in that people try to shy away from writing that they’re a parent in their profile, but a majority of the time, this ends up backfiring. When you’re looking for a relationship online, or even if you’re looking to simply hook up, people want to have a common ground with their potential dates, which means that you having your parental status clearly stated could end up helping you! If someone sees that you’re a parent, they may be more inclined and comfortable to message you than they are someone who doesn’t have children.

If you’re insecure about being a parent online, forget about it! You having kids can actually be an asset when trying to hookup.

Men Vs. Women– The Facts

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When you’re looking for sex online, you’re probably looking for someone specific. You want someone outgoing or artsy or nice or romantic– Whatever it is you’re looking for in an adult friend, it’s likely that you’re not going to be satisfied with your search until you’ve found it.

When it comes to personality traits, what are the chances you’re going to find what you’re looking for?

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TRUSTING:
You’re 34% more likely to find a trusting woman than a trusting man men.

HORNY:
As if this one isn’t obvious– you’re 43% more likely to find a horny man than woman.

POLITE:
Men are generally 6% more polite than women. On a first date? That number rises to 18%.

LITERARY:
If you’re looking for someone who reads on their spare time, you’re 10% more likely to find that with women.

OPTIMISTIC:
Men barely get the edge with this one, with a slim 8% more optimism than women.

VIOLENT:
If you want to stay away from violence, you’re going to have a 34% harder time doing it with men.

POLITICAL:
Want a good conversation about  the next presidential election? You’re 11% more likely to find a man that can hold a stimulating talk about politics than you are to find a women.

COMPASSIONATE:
Sorry ladies, but men on average are 39% less compassionate than women.

ADVENTUROUS:
Guys are 15% more adventurous in their day to day lives, and  an astonishing 70% more adventurous on dates. Why’s that? Well they’re not likely to try something new every day, but on a date they want to prove their worth, so they’re more likely to try new foods and do new things, while women are more comfortable sticking to the norm.

SPORTY:
If you’re looking for someone to throw the ball around with, you want a man! They’re 60% more likely to play sports than women.

There you have it! The over/under for personality traits between men and women.

How Can People See You At Your Sexiest?

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Making a good first impression is what using an online dating site is all about. You need to grab peoples attention long enough for them to get interested in your profile and what you have to say.

How do you do that? It all starts with the profile picture.

Scientists who have done studies on the brains reaction to the human face have found that 89% of men and 74% of women think that the opposite sex looks their best two hours into their work day. Why? It all has to do with freshness and attitude.

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When you’re at the two hour mark of your day, your hair and wardrobe (and makeup, if applicable) are still look fresh, but they’re not as stiff as they were at the start of the day. Your clothes start to lose their newly-ironed look and start properly draping themselves on your body, your hair falls in a more natural way, and your natural glow starts to shine through your makeup.

But it’s not all about physical looks, it’s about confidence! Studies show that over 70% of people would rather have sex with someone who was visibly confident. When you’re two hours into your work day, you’ve let enough time pass to feel you’ve accomplished something, but have enough of your day left to go to prevent you from feeling overwhelmed from pending work. What does that have to do with your confidence level? Well, because you’re sitting in such an optimistic place, you’re confidence is going to be higher than normal, which others will be able to catch onto.

What can you do with all this information? Use it to take the perfect profile picture! If you take a picture two hours into your work day, you’re likely to look your best, which will attract more people to your profile. Try it out yourself!