Rainy Day Statistics

Posted on October 13, 2011 by Woods

For North America, October usually means the rain before the snow. Two things most people don’t like, but have to deal with on a daily basis. But there’s good news for those with the rainy day blues: With the rain comes online dating site increases!

Relationship experts at Berkeley University have a new study concluding that when the weather is bad outside, online dating sites see a vast increase of members.

The study didn’t go into detail as to why people are more inclined to sign up during times of bad weather, but an educated guess can assume it’s the same reason shopping malls see an increase of costumers when it’s raining– Everyone gets bored and wants to find something to do inside.

So how can your dating life capitalize on this knowledge? Easy– You start finding dates!

People new to online dating are more likely to answer messages then they are to sent one themselves. Next time it’s raining, log onto your dating site and search for new members. Berkeley claims that if you find ones that had registered that day and are currently online, and you’ll increase your chances at finding a date by over 60%!

A little rain might not be the best for your hair or outdoor lives, but it’s great for your dating life! When you notice it raining this October, log on and find your match!

Leave Your Jealousy At The Door

Posted on September 28, 2011 by Woods

Studies prove that almost 50% of relationships end because of jealousy. Whether it’s jealousy that you spend too much time at your job, jealousy that you talk to other guys or girls too much, or jealousy that they’re not getting enough attention in the relationship; jealousy is a big factor when it comes to relationships ending.

If so many people are breaking up because of jealousy, what’s the simple solution to fixing it? Simple: keep it out of the relationship from the start!

When you sign up for an online dating site, it’s easy to get emotionally attached to people quickly. It’s important to remember that you don’t have ‘claim’ on anyone you’re talking to, regardless of how strongly you feel towards them! If they’re exploring other options by talking to other people, that’s their right, and you have to put an effort into containing your jealousy.

For men, jealousy usually stems from sex. When a girl they’re involved with flirts with another guy, it doesn’t bother them as much as it would if a girl they were interested in had sex with another guy. But when it comes to women, they pull the jealousy card before it gets close to that level. Women actually get more jealous at the thought of their men getting emotionally involved with someone else then they are at the thought of them sleeping with someone else!

When you start an online relationship, make sure you put in an effort from the start to keep jealousy out of it!

Dating For Divorcees

Posted on September 26, 2011 by Quinn

According to Bride’s Magazine, the average age of a woman getting married in the US is 27, while for a man it’s 29. And what do almost 40% of them do by age 50? Get remarried!

According to M.D. Bramlett and W.D. Mosher, authors of Cohabitation, Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage in the United States, say that 59% of people who get married before they’re 18 get divorced within 15 years and although that rate lowers to 36% for those who get married after age 20, it still hovers slightly above the 50% mark for all Americans.

What do these numbers mean? Basically that if you’re a divorcee in the online adult datingworld, you’re not alone! A majority of adults in North America are divorced, and that divorced majority makes up over half of the people using online dating sites.

Statistically, 40% of people on online dating sites are divorcees, but if you’re looking at only the users who are over 40 years of age, almost 65% of them have been divorced at least once. But it’s not just the older generation that makes up for that initial 40%! 60% of married couples between age 20 and 25 end in divorce according to the National Center for Health Statics, which means that even if you’re planning on searching for a younger demographic, you’re still likely to end up talking with a few divorcees along the way!

If you’re divorced and using dating websites, you should feel in good company! Many people who have failed marriages are embarrassed and think they will be judged on it, but once you understand that most of the people using dating sites are in the same situation as you, it makes it a much easier pill to swallow!

Having Big Fun On A Small Budget

Posted on September 23, 2011 by Woods

Most people using an online dating site have the intentions of turning their Internet interactions into offline dates, but records show that September and October are to of the biggest ‘spender’ months for people in North America. With preparations for winter taking up most of your bank account, how do you show your date a good time on a budget?

Catch the last drive-in of the season
When the summer ends, drive-in movie theaters know that their business is done for the year, so they have huge discounts to see several movies in order to attract people to the venue for the last warm weekends until next summer. Going to a drive in can cost you as little as $5 per person to see several movies, and you can bring along your own movie snacks to prevent yourself from spending any extra cash while you’re there. And if it gets a little chilly while watching the movie, you can always cuddle up to stay warm!

Visit a pumpkin patch
Pumpkin patches are usually opened months in advanced in anticipation of Halloween, but they offer more than just orange fruit! Pumpkin patches offer not only cheap dating experiences, but unique ones as well. You can take a walk through the pumpkin patches, usually visit the home-made shop accompanying it, and can participate in the activities like trying to get through the corn maze.

Walk through the local park
Nothing is more satisfying than a hot drink on a chilly day. Something as simple as grabbing a hot chocolate at the local coffee shop and walking through the park to enjoy the fresh air and see the newly changing leaves can be very enjoyable.

You don’t have to spend a lot to have a great time on a date. Next time you want to show someone a good time, don’t feel pressure to open your wallet too far! You can have a great time on a small budget.

How Often Should You Talk For A Successful Online Relationship?

Posted on September 21, 2011 by Quinn

There are millions of statistics that experts say make a good relationship. Healthy couples have sex 4-5 times a week, couples who spend time touching (hugging, kissing, cuddling, etc.) more than two hours a day are less likely to end in divorce, couples who spend at least one full 24-hour cycle apart each month are the likely to be happier in their courtship. It’s easy to find out how to be a good couple, but it’s not as easy to find out how to be a good online relationship.

So what are the keys to having a successful online relationship? Well, let’s take a look at the numbers…

If you’re planning on dating someone online, you need to be prepared to put in the time! Experts say when you’re first engaging conversation with someone new, you should talk to them three times a week. This will give enough space in between the conversations to allow anticipation develop, but doesn’t put enough time between them to give you time to over think it. During those three times a week, you should set aside at least 5 minutes to talking about each others day, and around 25 minutes getting to know the others life. Half an hour is the perfect timeframe to have a honest discussion, but it’s not too much time that you are going to get sick of each other quickly.

Once you take your online dating experience a step further and actually start getting serious with one another, you should move that three days to 4-5. This will give you a chance to develop and grow your relationship and move towards the path to an offline relationship.

The most important thing to remember while dating online is that it takes time! You can’t expect to develop a relationship when you’re not willing to put in the effort. Set aside time each day dedicated to finding that ‘special someone,’ and it won’t be long until you’ve found success.

Does Inexperience Give You A Bad Dating Reputation?

Posted on September 20, 2011 by Woods

This is my first time using an online dating site, and I’m finding that a lot of people are writing me off because they don’t think I’m ‘serious’ about it. What’s the deal here?
Confused and still alone
48, Virginia

We here at SexSearchCom get a lot of reader e-mails about being new to the online dating scene and not getting enough respect. The reason behind this usually boils down to people assuming that new users will eventually get sick of the online dating game and if they invest time in those new users, they’re going to be left back at square one, having to find new people to talk to. So what can you do to make sure you’re not labeled a stereotypical new user?

There’s no need for people to know you’re new!
Most adult friend finder sites have an option in your profile settings to hide your sign-up date. Often on dating profiles, it will show when you signed up, and when the last time you logged on was. If you simply turn off that feature, people won’t have public access to that information, which will prevent newbie-phobics from avoiding your page. It’s always important to be honest about yourself online, but this is a detail that you can afford to omit.

Be serious about finding someone online.
A big factor in people thinking new users aren’t a safe bet because statistically they’re the ones who are the most timid in taking the relationship from online to offline. If you’re interested in finding someone, then be serious about it! Be willing to put time and effort into getting to know people, and when they request for a formal date, put serious consideration into it!

Use online dating sites like you’re a pro!
The biggest sign that you’re a new user to online dating is a bare profile. Set up your page with through information and pictures so people assume you’ve been using online dating sites for ages! It will show that you’ve put effort into your dating aspirations, and will make people more inclined to pursue you online.

Unfortunately being labeled a new online user isn’t always the best thing, so do what you can to look like you’ve been around the online dating block and you’ll have an easier time attracting a date!

Is Social Media Necessary To A Healthy Dating Life?

Posted on September 19, 2011 by Quinn

I commute to work every day, and it never fails that while I’m on the subway, I’ll overhear a bad pickup line used. When I hear someone attempt to pick up and fail, I’m never surprised. What I am surprised at is how many times people respond well when someone asks them about social media.

I’ve found that when people use common pick up lines like, “Come here often?” and “You look familiar, do I know you from somewhere?”, the responses are unanimous: People are turned off by their unoriginality and end up turning them down. But when people add in social media to their pick up lines, most of the time people are interested in pursuing the conversation.

Questions like, “I’d really like to get to know you, but my stop is soon. Would you mind if I added you to Facebook(/BBM) and we could speak some more?” When people hear that they are being offered the opportunity to get to know someone new with the safety net of the computer between the the two of them, they’re more often than not happy to oblige to the idea.

This line of thinking begs the question– Is having social media accounts necessary to a healthy dating life?

In today’s age, there’s no excuse to not have social media accounts. Everything from Facebook to Twitter is free to use, and it’s a great way to connect with people, both friends and strangers alike. By having these accounts, you’re keeping the door open to get to know others online while monitoring how much you want them to know. Giving out your phone number often feels quite personal, so having a social media account to hand out is a great alternative. Not only can you decide what they do and do not see, but in return you’ll have great access to who they are, what they like, and how they spend their free time, all before you even have your first conversation.

If you don’t have social media accounts, there’s a big chance you’re putting a cap on the full potential of your sexlife. With a registration process that takes no longer than five minutes to complete, you could be setting yourself up for a much easier dating life. If you haven’t yet, get social!

Weight And Dating

Posted on September 16, 2011 by Quinn

With all the viewer e-mail we get, there’s one subject that stands out as the most popular topic people are interested about: Weight.

I’m a little heavier than my usual weight, and am more than self-conscious about it. Is this something people are going to be quick to judge about on online dating sites?

I’d like to first make the point that regardless of weight you are, you shouldn’t be ashamed of it. People come in all different sizes, and there’s always going to be someone looking for that size. Thinking that ‘skinny’ is the only attractive weight is going to hinder your dating life by making you insecure.

With that being said, the greatest thing about using dating sites is that the people get to know your personality before your looks. Even people with the lowest of self esteem can have an open and active dating life online without having to worry about their looks.

What’s important to remember is that being honest is a crucial part on the online dating process. Even though you may not be ideally happy with the way you currently look, you shouldn’t mislead people into thinking that you’re someone you’re not. Using a photo as a display picture that shows you three years younger and 30 pounds lighter is going to lead people into believing you look a way you no longer do. Letting them see what you look like right off the bat gives them a chance to appreciate who you are physically.

Online dating opens the door to a judgement free dating world. If you’re going to log on, then you should let loose! It doesn’t matter what you weigh, it matters who you are.

Throwing In The Towel

Posted on September 15, 2011 by Woods

Everyone has their limits, especially when it comes to dating. After all, how many times can you ask someone out before you give up? When it comes to using online personals, how long should you put in effort before you throw in the towel?

The truth is that, like everything else, online dating may take time to see progression out of. Each case is different– some people find love right away, some find lust after a few weeks, and some only find a friend even after a few months, but if you put in a valiant effort to find someone worth of your time, you’re going to find success!

As long as you’re online, you have a chance of finding the adult friend you’re looking for. If and when you do decide to throw in the towel, your odds of finding someone through the Internet get cut down to zero.

Almost all online daters will tell you that the results you get out of online dating is directly related to the effort you put into it.

“I had an account for almost a year, but I was never really serious about finding anyone, so I just closed it and gave up,” said Sandy Colfax, a 47-year-old mother of two from Wisconsin. “One day I woke up and thought to myself, ‘It’s time to get back out there.’ I really wanted to find someone and dedicated about an hour a day to talk with people online. Within a week I had scheduled dates and within a month I met Evan, who I’m currently married to.”

The second you decide that online dating isn’t going to work for you, it’s going to stop working for you. Everyone has a match waiting for them online! There are millions of people already using it, and millions more every day. Having patience and a positive attitude is guaranteed to get you the results you want while looking for love.

Open Online Dating

Posted on September 14, 2011 by Quinn

Open relationships, where a couple are free to see other people while still being committed to each other, are becoming more and more common. Books have been written by people in open relationships claiming that it saves the romance, and every day more people are embracing the idea. But when it comes to finding an adult friend online, is open really the way to go?

Generally open relationships don’t start out ‘open.’ Couples get to a standstill where they realize that they’re having curious feelings towards sleeping with other people, but still want to be with one another. Instead of breaking up, which usually neither party wants to do, or complicating things with cheating, they make a mutual agreement to have sex with other people, but maintain their relationship.

Traditionally people don’t go in seek of an open relationship. When you start off a relationship open, you’re basically saying, “We can date each other, but this won’t be serious and I want free reign to do what I want.” Although it may be difficult to find someone to agree with an open relationship right off the bat, you should be honest about the fact that that’s what you’re looking for.

People using Internet dating sites are usually the ones looking for a serious relationship, and it’s not fair to them to do a bait-and-switch. If you’re going to talk to them as if there’s potential for a real, solid relationship, then you should keep the door open for just that. If you know for a fact that you want to see other people during your relationship with them, it’s only fair that you let them know so they have the decision to continue investing time and feelings into your courtship or not.

While open relationships are becoming more common, they’re still not accepted by everyone. Do the people you’re dating a favor and let them know that’s what you’re looking for! All’s fair in love and war, but you may as well avoid the war if you can.

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