Add Some Love To Your Holiday Lust

Posted on December 20, 2012 by Quinn

Everyone knows that SexSearch is the best place to go online when they’re looking for fast and fun sex, but who says your fun as to end in the bedroom? A study from the University of Michigan showed that nearly 35% of people who meet online with the sole intention of a sexual hookup end up carrying out a romantic relationship lasting longer than three months.

Even if you’re only looking to get ‘er in and get out of there, it doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a little romance along the way! Finding someone that you can enjoy sexually as well as outside the bedroom can offer a variety of experiences that will keep you busy and boost your mood.

If you’re not looking for anything serious but still want to enjoy some time out on the town, our Sexperts have the 6 best ways to do romance without overdoing the cheese.

Get him tickets to a show
Whether it be a concert or a play, seeing live entertainment brings a whole new level of excitement, and since it’s not something you get to do every day it’ll instantly put you both in a good mood. Try getting tickets to a general admissions show; that way you won’t be confined to your seat and you’ll have more opportunity to get up close and personal to each other during the set!
Cook him dinner
They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Find out what his favorite foods are and whip up something tasty to enjoy before suggesting a little dessert in the bedroom!
Game on!
There’s nothing a guy likes more than a little friendly competition. Take him to see his favorite sports team and place a bet on who you think will win. Who ever comes out on top gets to choose what you do in the bedroom after the game! Continue reading →

Three Easy Ways To Get Laid Online This Weekend

Posted on October 19, 2012 by Quinn

It’s Friday, which means for most people the work week is over and it’s finally time for fun. But for people who worked all week, chances are you didn’t have the energy to cruise Sex Search and set up a hookup for the next few days. If you want to get laid this weekend but didn’t set something up in advance, we have the top 3 tips to get laid this weekend without having to put a lot of time into it.

Update your profile, even if just a little
When you update your profile, websites recognize you as an active user and are more likely to recommend you to other users currently online. That means more people are going to see your profile, and you’ll have a higher chance of other people reaching out to you.
Browse profiles of people currently online
It’s great when you find someone you’re attracted to and want to put in the time and effort to start a real relationship, but when you’re looking for someone to share the night with in the immediate future, you don’t want to take your chances. Messaging a flock of hot singles who are currently offline is a risk you won’t want to take. There’s no guarantee they’re going to check their messages before or even during the weekend, so messing people who are already online will increase your chances of connecting with someone instantly. The faster you connect, the faster you can make a date!
Keep in mind what you’re looking for: This is sex, not love
With so much personal information available online (hobbies, interests, musical preferences, etc), it’s easy to get lost with caring too much about what people are like. Continue reading →

The Do’s And Don’t's Of Sexting

Posted on December 14, 2011 by Woods

It seems that the evolution of the online relationship has changed from meeting online to meeting in real life, to meeting online, then texting, then Skypeing, then sexting, and only after all that do you actually get to meet.

When you’re at the stage with your adult friend where you feel a few naughty pictures are a must, make sure you brush up on the do’s and don’t's of sexting! It’s not enough to snap a picture of your hoo-ha and send it off. Sexting in the 21st century is an art form, and as both the photographer and the subject, you have to get in touch with your creative side!

Check out Sex Search’s sexting tips after the jump.

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Keep The Heat In Your Long Distance Relationship This Winter

Posted on December 6, 2011 by Woods

Chances are if you met your adult friend online, there are going to be times that the two of you have to maintain a long distance relationship.

If you’re faced with being hours apart every day, you need to put in extra effort to make your relationship work.

“Some separation can be good for a relationship because you get the chance to miss each other, but, no matter how much you’re in love, it’s important to do some creative stuff to stay connected,” says therapist and author of The Commuter Marriage: Keep Your Relationship Close While You’re Far Apart, Tina Tessina.

According to Tessina, you can’t let long distance relationships develop naturally the way you would a normal relationship, as you don’t have the physical interaction to stimulate your thoughts and feelings towards each other.

So how do you keep things hot when it’s cold and you’re alone? Check out Sex Search’s tips for keeping your flame alive!

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Ways To Get Yourself Rejected

Posted on November 24, 2011 by Woods

As an adult, you know that if you touch a stove top while it’s on, you’re going to get burnt, which is why you know not to touch them. How is this relevant to online dating? Once you know what people don’t want to see, you’ll know exactly what to avoid in your inaugural message to prospective dates.

There are countless advice columns on what you should do when you send out your first message online, but very few look into what you shouldn’t do. Before you log in to Sex Search and start your dating journey, take a look at things you don’t want to do when sending that ever important first message.

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Make Sure Your November Isn’t One Big Dry Spell

Posted on November 1, 2011 by Quinn

Yesterday we brought you the news that Halloween is one of the biggest conception days of the year, so it’s a little surprising to hear that November is the month where statistically people have the least sex.

Why? Well, it’s a mixture of things, but at the top of that list is a simple stress that plagues us all in November: Holiday pressure. People get so concentrated on their upcoming money woes that they put sex on the back burner. Not to mention, with Thanksgiving and the extra winter weight people tend to start packing on, most men and women are more self-conscious of their looks, and much less confident to go out and pick up an adult friend.

So what can you do to make sure you’re not a part of November’s dry spell?

Utilize your online dating account
A lot of people sign up for online dating simply out of curiosity. You’ve already done the hard part by signing up, you might as well make your efforts of logging in worth while! Find people you’re attracted to and actually put in an effort to talk to them and hookup.

Don’t let yourself go
Are looks crucial in dating? Of course not. But do they help? Oh yah, you better believe it! While everyone is letting themselves go in November, you can keep yourself looking your best to insure that you’ll stand out above the rest.

Forget about your money troubles
Your money has nothing to do with your sex life, so don’t mix the two! When you’re looking to get laid, don’t be thinking about all the cash you’re going to have to spend while holiday shopping the next day. Enjoy the moment you’re in and forget about the rest!

Don’t concentrate on getting laid
The more you think about something, the higher you set the bar. The more you think about getting laid, the more pressure you’re putting on yourself to get it. Put intercourse out of your mind! Start talking to others on a social level and sex will come a lot easier.

Here’s to conquering November’s dry spell!

Think You’re The Only Single Parent Online? Think Again

Posted on October 28, 2011 by Woods

When parents are looking for sex through an online dating site, it’s normal for them to feel a little odd for doing it. After all, when you’re a parent, your daily life consists more of making lunches than making love.

The good news is that you’re not alone! Although you may feel like you stick out as the only mom or dad trying to hookup online, you’re far from it. New numbers are showing that in users 35-45, nearly half of all registered online daters are single parents looking to have a second go at it!

According to the online dating database, single parents are almost as common as divorcees, who make up a majority of the online dating pool after the age 35.

From ages 25-35, single parents make up 18.6% of paid dating sites and 29.4% of free dating sites, and those numbers rise with age! Single parent daters aged 35-45 make up 44.3% of paid sites and 49.2% of free ones, and parents aged 45+ make up approximately 40% of both paid and free sites.

At Sex Search, we have parents signing up daily! Feeling as though you’re the only parent online is nothing more than insecurities.

There’s been a common pattern in the last few years in that people try to shy away from writing that they’re a parent in their profile, but a majority of the time, this ends up backfiring. When you’re looking for a relationship online, or even if you’re looking to simply hook up, people want to have a common ground with their potential dates, which means that you having your parental status clearly stated could end up helping you! If someone sees that you’re a parent, they may be more inclined and comfortable to message you than they are someone who doesn’t have children.

If you’re insecure about being a parent online, forget about it! You having kids can actually be an asset when trying to hookup.

Your ‘Hello’ Is Important To Your Sex Life!

Posted on October 27, 2011 by Woods

As any good online dater knows by now, your greeting in your first message is crucial. It sets the tone for your dating future together, and is your only chance to grab the attention of the person you’re messaging. But what you might not know is that the way you say hello is just as important as the rest of your first message!

A study done by the media moguls at O Magazine have revealed that the way you say hello can determine how much sex you’ll get from the people you’re contacting.

Why? Well according to the magazine, “A person trying online dating for the first time is likely to only read 10% of the messages you send them. That means when your messages are short, people are really just paying attention to the greeting.”

So which greetings are likely to lead the way to the bedroom?

The magazine did a study of 180, 000 first time messages, and found that one greeting stands out among the rest as an over 50% success rage, and one is sitting at the bottom of the list at under 25%.

The most mundane of greetings are ‘hey,’ ‘yo’, ‘hola,’ and ‘holla,’ all ranging from 30% success rate to 35% success. Or, in laymen’s terms, they’re the ones you want to stay away from.

A simple ‘hello’ is the second worst greeting you can have at only 26%, so you can check that one off your list as well. More unused greetings like ‘what’s up?’ and ‘howdy’ are each sitting at a 44% success rate, but they’re still not the top choice!

So what are the best and worst greetings to use?

According to the study, ‘Hi’ should never be your first greeting, as it only works 23% of the time. But in this context, ‘works’ doesn’t mean gets you sex, it simply means it gets a message back.

As for the best greeting, surprisingly enough ‘how’s it going?’ is the must successful greeting, coming in at a whopping 54% success rate in getting the messager laid.

Next time you send a first message, put a little extra thought into your greeting!

How Often Should You Talk For A Successful Online Relationship?

Posted on September 21, 2011 by Quinn

There are millions of statistics that experts say make a good relationship. Healthy couples have sex 4-5 times a week, couples who spend time touching (hugging, kissing, cuddling, etc.) more than two hours a day are less likely to end in divorce, couples who spend at least one full 24-hour cycle apart each month are the likely to be happier in their courtship. It’s easy to find out how to be a good couple, but it’s not as easy to find out how to be a good online relationship.

So what are the keys to having a successful online relationship? Well, let’s take a look at the numbers…

If you’re planning on dating someone online, you need to be prepared to put in the time! Experts say when you’re first engaging conversation with someone new, you should talk to them three times a week. This will give enough space in between the conversations to allow anticipation develop, but doesn’t put enough time between them to give you time to over think it. During those three times a week, you should set aside at least 5 minutes to talking about each others day, and around 25 minutes getting to know the others life. Half an hour is the perfect timeframe to have a honest discussion, but it’s not too much time that you are going to get sick of each other quickly.

Once you take your online dating experience a step further and actually start getting serious with one another, you should move that three days to 4-5. This will give you a chance to develop and grow your relationship and move towards the path to an offline relationship.

The most important thing to remember while dating online is that it takes time! You can’t expect to develop a relationship when you’re not willing to put in the effort. Set aside time each day dedicated to finding that ‘special someone,’ and it won’t be long until you’ve found success.

Is Social Media Necessary To A Healthy Dating Life?

Posted on September 19, 2011 by Quinn

I commute to work every day, and it never fails that while I’m on the subway, I’ll overhear a bad pickup line used. When I hear someone attempt to pick up and fail, I’m never surprised. What I am surprised at is how many times people respond well when someone asks them about social media.

I’ve found that when people use common pick up lines like, “Come here often?” and “You look familiar, do I know you from somewhere?”, the responses are unanimous: People are turned off by their unoriginality and end up turning them down. But when people add in social media to their pick up lines, most of the time people are interested in pursuing the conversation.

Questions like, “I’d really like to get to know you, but my stop is soon. Would you mind if I added you to Facebook(/BBM) and we could speak some more?” When people hear that they are being offered the opportunity to get to know someone new with the safety net of the computer between the the two of them, they’re more often than not happy to oblige to the idea.

This line of thinking begs the question– Is having social media accounts necessary to a healthy dating life?

In today’s age, there’s no excuse to not have social media accounts. Everything from Facebook to Twitter is free to use, and it’s a great way to connect with people, both friends and strangers alike. By having these accounts, you’re keeping the door open to get to know others online while monitoring how much you want them to know. Giving out your phone number often feels quite personal, so having a social media account to hand out is a great alternative. Not only can you decide what they do and do not see, but in return you’ll have great access to who they are, what they like, and how they spend their free time, all before you even have your first conversation.

If you don’t have social media accounts, there’s a big chance you’re putting a cap on the full potential of your sexlife. With a registration process that takes no longer than five minutes to complete, you could be setting yourself up for a much easier dating life. If you haven’t yet, get social!

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Category Archives: Online Dating 101

Add Some Love To Your Holiday Lust

Three Easy Ways To Get Laid Online This Weekend

The Do’s And Don’t's Of Sexting

Keep The Heat In Your Long Distance Relationship This Winter

Ways To Get Yourself Rejected

Make Sure Your November Isn’t One Big Dry Spell

Think You’re The Only Single Parent Online? Think Again

Your ‘Hello’ Is Important To Your Sex Life!

How Often Should You Talk For A Successful Online Relationship?

Is Social Media Necessary To A Healthy Dating Life?