Spring Has Sprung– And So Has Your Sex Drive

Posted on March 27, 2013 by Quinn

Top sexual research experts at Harvard University, The University of California, Miami State University along with multiple other prominent research facilities have found undeniable signs that both singles and people in relationships have a significantly lower amount of sex than they do during the rest of the year. So naturally with the dawning of spring comes the reawakening of your long lost libido! If you’re a little rusty from a winder of little sex, how do you get back into the swing of things in a comfortable way?

Our Sexperts have compiled a list of the 5 must-do’s to get back into a sex routine!

STRETCH!!! …Seriously though, stretch.
Let’s face it, we all get a little lazier in the winter. With the cold weather promoting us to spend more time on our couches and the icy sidewalks convincing us to take the subway to work, our bodies can get a little stiff over the season. Whether you do an in-home yoga routine or you head to the gym to limber up, giving your body the chance to stretch is a big must before diving back into bed.
Drink lots of water
Hydration isn’t only great for your skin, but being properly hydrated gives your body better stamina, making it more likely that you’ll last longer in bed. Continue reading →

The Blessing Is A Curse: Why Having A Big Dick Can Hinder You In Bed

Posted on March 4, 2013 by Quinn

If you’re a frequent SexSeacher, there’s no doubt you’re already familiar with our newest addition to the SS team, Erika Jordan. Erika is one of the biggest know-it-all’s about sex in the best way possible. She’s experienced nearly everything in the sack, so she has intimate knowledge of almost any sex question you could have. That’s why we’ve brought her on to answer any and every question you have about love, lust, and everything that goes on in between.

This week we had a question from someone with a very large problem. To put it the most delicate way possible, he’s a little too well endowed and women have a hard time receiving what the good lord game him.

We know that most men without this problem would love to have it, but men who are effected by it generally whistle a different tune. While a slightly larger than normal penis is generally pleasurable in bed, a too-big penis can be extremely painful for someone who isn’t used to the size.

So what can you do if you go into a sexual situation knowing that your member might be a bit much to take?

Have realistic expectations
If this is the first time you and your lady are getting naked together, don’t expect intercourse. The human body is only designed to take so much, and if she hasn’t had the chance to adjust, then diving in isn’t really an option. Thinking that you’re in for a passionate night may leave you disappointed, so don’t go into it with high expectations.
Have her do a little homework
When you’re in school, you do homework so when the big test comes around you’re ready. That’s exactly what she’ll have to do here. Have her physically prepare herself with the help of dildos and stretchers so you don’t injure her during the big moment.
Be comfortable with oral sex
Oral sex is a two way street. If you’re not planning on giving her something that will leave her satisfied, don’t expect the same in return! Chances are until she’s prepared for your size you’ll be stuck in Blow Job City, which can very quickly become vacant if you’re not willing to give her the same! Go down on her as much as she goes down on you so you can continue to get your jollies off.
Have patience!
Some women’s bodies can adjust within a day, and some can take weeks. Whatever you do, don’t force the issue. You’ll have to trust her word on when she’s ready, otherwise you’ll run the risk of simply not getting laid at all.

Want to know Erika’s tips on dealing with a big dick? Check out her video on the subject under the cut! Continue reading →

You Have A Better Chance Of Finding Sex After Valentine’s Day Then Before, New Study Shows

Posted on February 19, 2013 by Quinn

We know that most single people were scrambling to find action before February 14th, but a new study shows that the smart people weren’t in a rush: People are more likely to find sex in the two weeks following Valentine’s Day than they are to find it on the days leading up to the holiday.

According to Pace University in New York City, nearly twice as many people in North America find new sexual partners between February 14th and 28th than one4s who do between February 1st and 14th.

“There’s an urgency for those looking for love before Valentine’s Day because of the emotional effects that come along with being alone. People who genuinely want to be in a relationship often feel overwhelmed at the thought of being alone on Valentine’s Day for fear that seeing others happy will amplify their sadness,” says Pace professor Karl MacIver. “But that’s not the case for those simply looking to have sex. People who are looking for a strictly physical relationship have a better chance of finding it post-February 14th. The emotional stigma that comes along with the time of year has worn off by this point, and many people who were looking for relationships begin to settle for the idea of sex.” Continue reading →

What Do You Wish You Knew About Sex Before Losing Your Virginity?

Posted on January 9, 2013 by Quinn

We all stress over our first time having sex before we actually get around to doing the dirty. Thinking about if it will hurt, how long it will last, what will happen when it’s done– Sexual experiences for the first time are a world of questions that you simply don’t know the answers to.

Well the users of Reddit, a public forum that covers any and every subject under the sun, asked each other what they wish they knew before they had sex for the first time, and their answers ranged from surprising to inspiring to downright accurate.

See what people from all over the world had to say about it!

“There is no perfect moment for the first time so don’t plan it. If you are planning it on a specific time you are under pressure and it won’t meet your expectations by any mean.” -cruzer71

“If you think someone can hear you, they can probably hear you.” -cute_as_corgis

“Muscular endurance. Once your arms start to shake it gets hard to focus.” -Doomskank

“That the person I’m having sex with wants to see me naked and I shouldn’t be having a heart attack about what they think since they already want it.”- wellwhatishername Continue reading →

Hit The Radio: Music Can Help You Last Longer During Sex

Posted on December 28, 2012 by Quinn

New studies have been released claiming that listening to music while working out can help you work out longer. Why? Music gives you something to concentrate on other than your body. It helps you forget about your muscle tension and the burn from your exercise, and having a rhythm to concentrate on can even help regulate your breathing.

So what does this have to do with sex? When you strip away the pleasure, sex is little more than a great cardio workout. With that logic, is it possible that listening to music can help improve your sexercise?

Doctors are now saying that one of the best natural battles against early ejaculation is to simply pump the music during intercourse.

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Keep Your Bedroom Life Active: 5 Things She’s Craving

Posted on December 26, 2012 by Quinn

When guys jump in bed, there’s usually only two things on their mind: Getting er in and getting er off. That’s great for you when you’re accomplishing your goal, but what about the girl your with? Are you sure she’s enjoying that hard-and-fast thrusting you’ve been giving her is something you both enjoy?

If you want to turn the tables and concentrate on pleasing your woman instead of concentrating on being pleased yourself, our Sexperts are sharing the 5 hottest things that set women off in the bedroom.

5. Get Your Edward Cullen On
No, this isn’t a suggestion that you throw on glitter and act like a 17-year-old vampire. We’re talking about what vampires do– Bite necks. The skin between a woman’s collarbone to the base of her ear is amongst the thinnest in her entire body. What’s that mean? Nearly fully exposed nerve endings. Hard, passionate kisses and gentle nibbling along her neck mixed with light blowing on the moist trail you’ve left will create an irresistible mix of hot and cold that will have her begging for more.

4. Use Your Words
Everyone has their insecurities– They’re not sure if you like their moves, if you’ve noticed those 5 extra pounds you’ve been carrying, if you noticed that weird little moan they accidentally let out… Whatever their insecurities are, they’re enough to make a woman hold back in bed. But there’s no easier way to loosen her up and to clear her head then gently reassuring her that her worries are unjustified. Just how can you do that? Continue reading →

Rev His Engine: 5 Ways To Get Him Going

Posted on December 21, 2012 by Quinn

When the temperature drops, so do libido’s. In fact, studies out of New York University’s department of psychology suggests that the sex drive of the average man drops so much in the winter months that it resembles someone 5 years older than himself. So that 25-year-old you’re dating is acting more like a 30-year-old in the sack.

While it’s not your responsibility to keep him up at all times, it will benefit you to know how to turn him on when the mood strikes! Our Sexperts have put together the 5 easiest and hottest ways to turn on your man even after the summer heat has fizzled away.

Give him a surprise from behind
We here at Sex Search think that sex should be anything but routine, which is why we often steer women away from hand jobs. If you’re incorporating it with a blow job, it can be great! But if you’re giving one on its own it can leave a lot to be desired– Unless you spice it up! Instead of doing the usual pants dance (that’s the name we gave to the action of slowly teasing your man as to whether or not you’re going to undo his zipper and show him a good time), surprise him from behind and start without warning. Giving him a hand job with your arm wrapped around his body from behind will allow you to have your plan flat against the underside of his penis as you stroke it, which is how he feels when he pleasures himself. Studies from Men’s Health Magazine show that men actually prefer this feeling to how a woman’s hand is usually positioned because it’s what they’ve conditioned themselves to enjoy through years of masturbation. But you have an advantage: The only sensation men get while giving themselves a hand job is purely through their penis, but you’ll be able to kiss his neck, back, arms and ears to give him an added sensation he’s not used to.
Try a new groom
Grooming habits are extremely important to men. If you’re expecting to turn him on while sporting a 5 o’clock shadow, you may find yourself left to finish the job on your own. Whether it be shaving a landing strip for the first time, going full Brazilian or even pulling a Jennifer Love Hewitt and vajazzling your vajayjay, your man is going to want to experience first-hand what your new groom feels like against his body. Continue reading →

Sex Searchers Confess Their Most Embarrassing Bedroom Accidents

Posted on November 6, 2012 by Quinn

Everyone wants to think that sex is exactly as it is in the movies: Perfect, flawless, and never, ever embarrassing. Well Sex Searchers, there’s a reason for the expression ‘Never say never!’ Sex mishaps happen to the best of us at the worst time, so we’ve asked our users to open up about the most embarrassing things that have ever happened to them in bed. Get ready to leave behind your bashful sides, because our users are baring it all with their bedroom blunders!

“The last guy I slept with laid me on my band and told me that he’d do all the world. He started pumping and thrusting and sounding like he was really enjoying himself. He ended going from start to finish in about three minutes, never once noticing that he was between my thighs the entire time. He asked me how it was and I couldn’t bring myself to telling him that he never actually entered me.”
-Becca, 31, New Jersey

“I met a guy online last year after breaking up with my boyfriend of three years. My ex was a lot smaller than this new guy but I really didn’t think it would make that much of a difference. Long story short, this new guy ended up tearing my vagina. It wasn’t just embarrassing, it was pretty horrifying– It resulted in a bloody mess and two stitches. Needless to say, I now require a size check before I get it on.”
-Veronica, 28, Fresco

“I’m really into food play, so when I had a girl over last week, we decided to cover her in whip cream and have me lick it off. After downing what we had put on her right breast, I started feeling really sick, so I excused myself to go to the washroom. I ended up being in there for a good 15 minutes when I heard her walk across the room and turn on the lights. That’s when she informed me that she needed to get in the washroom to clean off… Because the whip cream she was covered in was moldy. I was sick for three days and we never did get to finish our night.”
-Bradley, 42, Wisconsin Continue reading →

Facebook Vs. Sex: Why Women Prefer The Social Network Over Intercourse

Posted on October 12, 2012 by Quinn

When it comes to sex and the Internet, there’s no doubt that most men would choose the former to keep in their lives. But in a surprising new study from Cosmopolitan’s latest ‘Sex and Social Media Study,’ the found that an almost unbelievable 57% of women say they’d rather give up their sex lives than their Facebook accounts.

In the study, which surveyed 1020 of their readers about their involvement in social media in comparison to their sex lives, it was revealed that over half of women ranging from their early 20s to their late 30s are allowing their relationships to flounder because of their profile addictions.

Why the difference between men and women? Dr. Sanka Doblev of Texas A&M says that, unlike men, women would rather feel a sense of community than be sexually satisfied, which has created a stronger urge for women to stay plugged into their social accounts at all times.

“Men have a physical need to release their sexual desires, but women are mentally unaffected if they’re not sexually satisfied. They have a maternal instinct that creates the urge to feel needed, but many females don’t have that feeling fulfilled through sex. That has a lot to do with [why women are turning to the Internet]. They want to feel wanted, and seeing a Facebook notification or a Twitter response can give them that feeling better than sex can,” says Dr. Doblev.

So what can you do if you’re stuck in a Facebook rut? We know that for many people deleting your account is not an option, but allowing the Internet to derail your sex life will put you on the fast track to a dry spell. That’s why mastering the fine line between being a Facebook fiend and a sexual satisfier is crucial in the 21st century. Continue reading →

This Post Is For The Ladies: How To Get Your Man To Do What You Like In Bed

Posted on September 13, 2012 by Quinn

You’re home alone, you’re getting hot and heavy, and you’re ready to have a good time. After taking your time pleasing your man orally, it’s only naturally to assume that he’ll be doing the same thing in return. But let’s be serious here– That doesn’t happen. Once you’ve gotten your man going, there’s almost no slowing him down on his way to he home plate.

The problem with that is you want him to slow down! Letting him skip foreplay is like trying to go down a water slide before someone has turned the faucet on.

Our Sexperts know that it can be a little awkward trying to ask your man to do specifics in bed, so we have four easy ways to gently let your man know what you want to ensure you get it!

“I love when you take your time doing that– It feels so good.”
Nothing boosts a guy’s ego than letting him know you’re enjoying what he’s doing, and if you’re smart, you can use that little ego stroke to your advantage! Instead of just telling him that it feels good, tell him how much you like it when he takes his time doing it. As he keeps going, play it up a little. The more you tell him you like it, the more he’ll be inclined to continue performing without the rush. Continue reading →

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