Spring Has Sprung– And So Has Your Sex Drive

Posted on March 27, 2013 by Quinn

Top sexual research experts at Harvard University, The University of California, Miami State University along with multiple other prominent research facilities have found undeniable signs that both singles and people in relationships have a significantly lower amount of sex than they do during the rest of the year. So naturally with the dawning of spring comes the reawakening of your long lost libido! If you’re a little rusty from a winder of little sex, how do you get back into the swing of things in a comfortable way?

Our Sexperts have compiled a list of the 5 must-do’s to get back into a sex routine!

STRETCH!!! …Seriously though, stretch.
Let’s face it, we all get a little lazier in the winter. With the cold weather promoting us to spend more time on our couches and the icy sidewalks convincing us to take the subway to work, our bodies can get a little stiff over the season. Whether you do an in-home yoga routine or you head to the gym to limber up, giving your body the chance to stretch is a big must before diving back into bed.
Drink lots of water
Hydration isn’t only great for your skin, but being properly hydrated gives your body better stamina, making it more likely that you’ll last longer in bed. Continue reading →

What Do You Wish You Knew About Sex Before Losing Your Virginity?

Posted on January 9, 2013 by Quinn

We all stress over our first time having sex before we actually get around to doing the dirty. Thinking about if it will hurt, how long it will last, what will happen when it’s done– Sexual experiences for the first time are a world of questions that you simply don’t know the answers to.

Well the users of Reddit, a public forum that covers any and every subject under the sun, asked each other what they wish they knew before they had sex for the first time, and their answers ranged from surprising to inspiring to downright accurate.

See what people from all over the world had to say about it!

“There is no perfect moment for the first time so don’t plan it. If you are planning it on a specific time you are under pressure and it won’t meet your expectations by any mean.” -cruzer71

“If you think someone can hear you, they can probably hear you.” -cute_as_corgis

“Muscular endurance. Once your arms start to shake it gets hard to focus.” -Doomskank

“That the person I’m having sex with wants to see me naked and I shouldn’t be having a heart attack about what they think since they already want it.”- wellwhatishername Continue reading →

Are You Wrapping It Up Properly? New Study Shows Most People Use Condoms Wrong

Posted on December 29, 2012 by Quinn

There’s good news in the world of STD prevention: The number of condoms sold in the United States rose by 25% in 2011. So either one lucky guy who practices safe sex is having a lot more of it, or more men are smartening up about their sexual health.

Unfortunately, many of those men (maybe even you) are making crucial mistakes when it comes to condom use. Strapping it on and giving ‘er a go doesn’t fit the bill anymore– You need to make sure you’re doing it right!

These are the top 5 condom mistakes guys make without even knowing it, and what you can do to make them right:

You’re not leaving space at the tip
Sure it looks a little odd having extra latex space between your weenier and the end of the condom, but that small bit of space is going to be what keeps the condom working. That space is crucial for the seamen to have a place to go. Your little fellas swim so fast out of your body that if you don’t leave enough space (at least quarter of an inch), they’re likely to break the condom. 24.3% of unplanned pregnancies caused while wearing a condom were reported to have been caused because of this issue.
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Sexting For The Shy: How To Break Out Of Your Timid Bubble And Get Wild With Your Texting

Posted on October 17, 2012 by Quinn

Imagine sitting at work, hearing your phone vibrate on your desk, checking your messages and reading the most mind-blowing, erection-inducing, heart-rate-increasing message you’ve ever gotten. No warning, no reason– Simply a message letting you know that someone has you on their mind in the raunchiest way possible.

Sexting can take your love life to the next level. Instead of enjoying the heat only when you’re in the moment, you can tease and please whoever you want, from wherever you want, whenever you want. But for those of us untrained in the world of dirty-talk, sexting can feel more like a chore than a luxury, and the task can be even more daunting if you’re shy.

Like most activities, sexting can be broken down into categories that you can follow to ensure that you’re having a good time, not a challenging one.

Know your audience
You wouldn’t tell a drug joke to a police officer, and you wouldn’t tell your boss about how your ‘flu’ was actually a two-day hang over. There’s always a line between appropriate and inappropriate when it comes to different people, so take a minute to think about who you’re targeting your sext to before you hit ‘send’. What do they like in bed? Are they kinky enough to send what you’re really thinking? Are they even the kind of person who would want to receive a sexually driven text? Think about who you’re planning on digitally seducing before you go for it.

What’s your goal?
So you know you want to send them a sext, but what do you want to come of it? Are you looking to start a steamy conversation, or do you want to get them so riled up that they’ll make a plan to head to your place as soon as they’re available? Think about what you want the outcome to be before you start the chat. If you want to keep it digital, start your convo with a question. “Do you know what I was just thinking about” is a simple and effective way to gain their attention. When they respond with the inevitable “What?”, you can turn up the heat. “What it would be like to lick honey all over your naked body,” makes things instantly hot and is almost impossible to not promptly respond to. On the other side, if you’re looking for your sext to lead to action a little more personal, you can start the conversation with a suggestion instead of a thought. “I just made a little trip to the grocery store and picked up honey. Come by my place and help me get good use out of them.” It’s hot, it’s direct, and it’s much more appealing to the recipient than the standard “Are you free to hookup tonight?” text. Continue reading →

3 Mistakes You Can Learn From Kim Kardashian’s Sex Tape

Posted on August 7, 2012 by Quinn

The Kim Kardashian/ Ray J sext tape may be one of the most famous celebrity sex tapes of all time, but unlike the Pam/ Tommy and Paris/ Whoeverthatguywas tapes, Kim’s tape doesn’t act as a raw how-to for the bedroom. In fact, experts say that Kim makes some of the most common mistakes that females make in the bedroom.

With so much talk surrounding the tabloid princess and her now infamous tape, it’s only natural for people to be curious enough to see what all the fuss is about. So why not turn your porn watching pleasure into a cautionary tale? Instead of just watching the video to see what Kim is willing to do in the sack, our Sexperts have pointed out the top three things for you to see what not to do while having sex.

Ditch The ‘Baby, Baby, Baby’ Talk

When you’re having sex, your vocabulary is rarely a main concern. Between the overwhelming physical sensations you’re experiencing and the mental nirvana your mind is preoccupied with, it’s easy to see why people get carried away using the same phrases over and over again in bed. Things like “Oh my god,” “Holy fuck!” and several other claims of elation now have a common place in the bedroom, but there’s still one that’s so tabu that it’s widely considered a turn off for men, and Kim uses it a lot. So what’s the magic word that can turn him off as quickly as you’ve turned him on? ‘Baby’. A survey conducted by GQ Magazine showed that not only do 64% of men say they’d prefer a woman not call him baby in bed, but 27% of them actually said it’s one of the least sexy things a woman could do. Many men feel that being given the ‘baby’ title is emasculating, and the video has Kim saying it time and time again. When you’re having sex, make sure you’re not turning him off while trying to turn him on. Be cautious of what you’re saying! Continue reading →

The Easiest Tips To Your Best Orgasm Ever

Posted on May 15, 2012 by Quinn

Make sure you’re on your back. Always get on top. Keep your eyes closed, but maintain eye contact. It seems like every article you read on how to have a better orgasm gives you conflicting advice, and none of it is ever consistent.

Well Sex Searchers, we’ve done extensive research depicting what works and what doesn’t to enhance your orgasm. From people who get laid daily to people who are getting laid for the first time, these are guaranteed to help you have a better time in bed! Check out our (extremely easy) tips on how to achieve a great orgasm.

Deep Breaths

Experts have found that a majority of women (nearly 82%) unknowingly hold their breath during climax. Experts say that any powerful sensation to your nerves can literally take your breath away– Inhaling oxygen and holding it in your body is a natural reaction to both pain and pleasure. So what can holding your breath do to your orgasm? Well, not only does breathing help your nerves feel sensations more intensely, but it helps your partner climax, as well! Nearly 90% of men say they enjoy sex more when they have confirmation their women are enjoying themselves. Our suggestion? Moan! If you make a point to vocalize your pleasure, not only will you ensure you’re breathing, but you’ll allow your partner to have a more relaxing time. Continue reading →

Make Your Boobs Look Better

Posted on April 26, 2012 by Quinn

Whether they’re too big, too small, to saggy, too solid, too flat or too much like watermelons, every woman has issues with her breasts. But boob dilemmas aren’t like regular body issues as they interfere with other aspects of your life– More specifically, they mess up your sex life.

Physiologists at the University of Western Ontario have found that when women are self-conscious, they perform nearly 8% worse in sexual scenarios than during times they are happy with their bodies, but that statistic is much higher when you take breasts into consideration.

Women who are unhappy with the appearance of their breasts generally perform nearly 25% worse than others in bed. Why? The professors from Western say that women tend to spend so much time stressing about the appearance of their breasts that they don’t concentrate on the task at hand, which brings down their performance level significantly.

If you’re like most women in the world and aren’t thrilled about what’s going on with your chest, our Sexperts have three quick and easy tips for improving the appearance of your breasts!

Flat boobs? Get a spray tan!
For women seeking the appearance of larger cups without having to head under the knife, going to a spray tanner can help boost your bust. Find a salon that does personal spray tans (where someone has a spray gun, not somewhere with an automatic booth), and ask them to circle your breasts with extra spray. When the tan is dry, the area surrounding the breasts will appear to be shadowed, which will give the illusion that your cups are larger than before. Continue reading →

Can An iPhone App Help Your Sex Life?

Posted on April 11, 2012 by Quinn

There are nearly a million apps available in the iTunes store for you to play on, learn from, and connect with. Apple has developed their software for the iPhone and the iPad over the last five years to help improve almost every aspect of your life. From instant traffic updates as they happen to GPS programs that bring you to restaurants based on personal taste in food.

With all this development in technology to advance your way of life, it’s not surprising that someone has developed an app that helps you improve your sex life.

The question isn’t ‘Is there an app for that?’– Chances are if you’re wondering that question, then yes, there’s already an app for that. The question is ‘Would this app really help my sex life?’

Our Sexperts have taken a look at three apps from the iTunes store that claim to improve your sex life and, not surprisingly, found that like a lot of other apps from Apple the sex apps are actually pretty useful!

So which ones were good and which one was a waste? Continue reading →

5 Most Common Things Couples Cut Out

Posted on April 9, 2012 by Quinn

Like most people, familiarity and routine have a tendency to make someone comfortable to the point that they no longer feel the need to impress. After a few months in a new job you no longer spend hours getting ready in the morning, after a few weeks with a new trainer you no longer pretend that those 200 crunches don’t burn your abs, and after a little while of dating someone you no longer pretend that you’re as perfect as you may have appeared on that first date.

It’s always nice when you hit the part of your relationship where you feel confident being yourself around your partner, but often that confidence leaves the door open for you to stop doing the things that your match might enjoy.

One of the easiest ways to avoiding falling into the rut that many people face after a few months together is to simply know what those ruts are. Just as you’re a better driver when you’re aware of your surroundings, you’re a better dater if you know what downfalls you should be trying to avoid.

If you’ve found someone on Sex Search that you’re interested in starting a real relationship with, here are the 5 most common things you should avoid cutting out of your relationship!

Oral Sex
A study publicized on Dr. Phil’s popular daytime television show reported that nearly 50% of couples cut out oral sex within the first year, and upwards of 80% of them cut back significantly within the first 5 years. Oral sex isn’t just an important part of sexually connecting with a new partner, it’s a crucial part of keeping the flame in the bedroom alive when you’ve been together for an extended period of time. It’s not enough to just have intercourse when you’re dating someone– oral sex is the easiest and most effective way to maintain intimacy in a relationship. Continue reading →

Fun Ways Spice Up Your Easter Weekend

Posted on April 4, 2012 by Quinn

Most of North America is being treated to a three day weekend this week, which means that you have an extra night to hang out, relax and, best of all, spend more time in bed! Although a lot of Easter weekend is often spent with family and friends, the extra day will allow you to enjoy a little ‘me’ time where you get to concentrate on pleasing yourself– and letting other people please you, too!

Since Easter only comes around once a year, we thought we’d give you a few ideas to spice up your long-weekend sex life! Here are three things Sex Searchers can do to enjoy the three day weekend!

Throw on a bunny costume!

Bunnies have become associated with two things in pop culture over the last few decades: Easter, and Playboy. Since Hugh Hefner started putting long hears and a cotton tail on half-naked women, men have found themselves attracted to the bunny illusion. Why not give him a little excitement that combines Easter with the classic magazine sex symbol? Grab a pair of ears and a small tail from any department store and sex it up with a matching lace bra and panty set. Most men fantasize about being with a Playboy, so the surprise of seeing one in their bed turn them on without you even having to do anything! Since the rest of his weekend is surely to be filled with pictures of bunnies, he’ll be reminded multiple times about your experience in bed together. A fun time in bed and he’ll keep thinking about you even after it’s done? Sounds like an easy achievement to us! Continue reading →

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