Going Through A Divorce? Here’s What Not To Do When Dating Online During A Divorce

Posted on June 15, 2012 by Quinn

The internet is a great place for soon-to-be divorcees. It’s estimated by Yahoo! News that over half of all divorcees in the United States use an online dating site to connect with other people going through divorce to seek advice and to simply connect. Although finding new people online is a great way to get over the heartbreak of a failed marriage, there are some snags that can derail your happiness along the way.

While on the Dr. Phil show Scott Trout, a managing partner for the law firm of Cordell & Cordell P.C, discussed the most common mistakes people make online while going through divorce. It’s not a commonly known fact, but your ex’s divorce attorney can actually use content you’ve posted online against you in divorce cases. If you’re planning on exploring your online options before your divorce is finalized, stray away from these sticky situations:

Don’t talk about new purchases.
As soon as someone buys a new car, moves into a nicer place, or even goes on vacation, it’s common for them to stick pictures of it online. Who wouldn’t want their potential dates to know how well they’re doing on their own? But according to Trout, this will come back to bite you. High priced items you post online can be used against you in claims that you can’t afford alimony or child support.
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Is The Media Going Overboard With Making Women Feel Bad About Their Bodies?

Posted on April 13, 2012 by Quinn

If it’s not one thing, it’s another. Her hair is too dry, her breasts are too small, her skin is too orange, and now her vagina is too dark?

Don’t bother re-reading that last part again– You read it right the first time.

A company from India has recently launched a media campaign for a product called Clean and Dry Intimate Wash that promises to lighten the skin around the vagina. It’s not uncommon for skin hygiene products in Asia to contain bleaching ingredients, but this is the first time we’re seeing something targeted towards changing the color of someone’s vagina.

In 2009, spas and salons in American and Canada saw a rather large increase of people requesting services to get their anus bleached, but the trend is now traveling a little forward, as the Indian body wash isn’t the only sign that people are looking to lighten their southern regions: The York Spa, a SoHo region based salon in Manhattan and one of the most widely visited salons in the country, has said that the number of women inquiring about vagina lightening has increased nearly 300% in only a four-month span.

So what does this mean for the average dater? Do you need to break into your laundry supply of liquid bleach in a desperate attempt to whiten your lady bits before you have sex with someone again? We asked our Sexperts if they thought this was a necessary step, and their answers were an unanimous no. A big no.

According to a study published by GQ Magazine in 2010, a majority of men (nearly 62% of them, if you want to get technical) say that they prefer a natural woman– No hair dye, minimal make-up, and an organic look. Although vagina and anal bleaching weren’t specific topics of the study, basic human urges for a naturally developed partner can safely lead you to the conclusion that a bleached vagina isn’t something men want.

There will always be commercials trying to convince you that you need the latest cosmetic products are things you desperately need in order to improve your sex life, but knowledge of sexually stimulating moves and actions will get you a lot further than lightened genitals!

Don’t buy into the media pressure: Becoming knowledgeable about sex from websites like our Sex Search blog is much more important than making yourself more ascetically pleasing. Read up, become an expert, and attract people to your sexuality, not your unnatural body parts.

5 Most Common Things Couples Cut Out

Posted on April 9, 2012 by Quinn

Like most people, familiarity and routine have a tendency to make someone comfortable to the point that they no longer feel the need to impress. After a few months in a new job you no longer spend hours getting ready in the morning, after a few weeks with a new trainer you no longer pretend that those 200 crunches don’t burn your abs, and after a little while of dating someone you no longer pretend that you’re as perfect as you may have appeared on that first date.

It’s always nice when you hit the part of your relationship where you feel confident being yourself around your partner, but often that confidence leaves the door open for you to stop doing the things that your match might enjoy.

One of the easiest ways to avoiding falling into the rut that many people face after a few months together is to simply know what those ruts are. Just as you’re a better driver when you’re aware of your surroundings, you’re a better dater if you know what downfalls you should be trying to avoid.

If you’ve found someone on Sex Search that you’re interested in starting a real relationship with, here are the 5 most common things you should avoid cutting out of your relationship!

Oral Sex
A study publicized on Dr. Phil’s popular daytime television show reported that nearly 50% of couples cut out oral sex within the first year, and upwards of 80% of them cut back significantly within the first 5 years. Oral sex isn’t just an important part of sexually connecting with a new partner, it’s a crucial part of keeping the flame in the bedroom alive when you’ve been together for an extended period of time. It’s not enough to just have intercourse when you’re dating someone– oral sex is the easiest and most effective way to maintain intimacy in a relationship. Continue reading →

Three Sexy Things To Do Before The Week Is Done

Posted on March 28, 2012 by Quinn

It’s Hump Day! The one day of the week where you finally feel like you’re in a rhythm with your work and when you’re not too far away from the freedom which is the weekend. The only problem? It’s also the day where most people are so involved with their lives that they tend to neglect the much needed time that the bedroom requires.

It’s been widely reported by relationship experts that people who have more sex are likely to live happier and healthier lives. In fact, new research from the University of Toronto claims that couples who have sex more than 11 times a month are twice as likely to avoid divorce than couples who have less sex.

If you’re too tired to think of simple ways to get sexual this week, Sex Search has you covered: Here are three quick, simple and easy things you can do to add a little spice to your lackluster weekday sex life!

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Sex Tips From The World’s Most Trusted Source: Oprah.

Posted on March 5, 2012 by Quinn

From news stories to celebrity interviews, the world has listened to Oprah’s every word regarding every subject. There’s no doubt she’s a national treasure, and when it comes to things like sex, she’s just as trusted as she is when it comes to selecting good books. Viewers first started taking her seriously as a sex expert when Dr. Phil and Dr. Oz were introduced to her show– They explored both the mental and physical benefits and downfalls of sex, and it didn’t take long for people to be looking at Oprah as the new Kama Sutra master.

Now that her show’s over, a lot of Sex Search users are looking for new sources for good sex advice. Well good news Searchers, because Oprah’s bedroom advice didn’t stop when her show ended! Her monthly O Magazine has just published an article featuring words of sexual wisdom from Dr. Laura Berman, and we have all the highlights you’ll need to have a happy and healthy sex life.

If your partner can’t satisfy you, should you move on?

Breaking up because you’re having trouble climaxing is a pretty extreme move. Instead of jumping the gun on calling it quits, Dr. Berman suggests that you try to teach your partner what they could do to be more beneficial in bed. “You can have a man who has been with 200 women and still has no idea how to satisfy a partner, unless one of the women he has been with was able and willing to teach him. I think a lot of the responsibility does rest with the woman—as it does with the man to educate the woman about what he likes,” says Dr. Berman.

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Don’t Fish In The Company Pool

Posted on March 1, 2012 by Quinn

It’s been a growing trend for the past 5 years that companies are loosening their rules on dating other employees. They’ve gone from an ‘it shouldn’t be done’ standpoint to ‘go ahead and date! Just keep the kissing out of the office’ mentality.

If your office has given the go-ahead to court your co-workers, you might not want to jump on that train so fast! Mixing business and pleasure has time and time again proven to cause problems. Of course there are perks (who wouldn’t want easy access to a lunchtime quickie?!), but there are downfalls as well. Everyone has had those days where they’ve left angry in the morning, and the day they have to themselves is what let them cool down and put the morning scrap behind them. Imagine what it would be like if you never got that 9-hour break from your significant other? Having to work with someone you have personal problems with can be distracting and as a result it’s both your feelings and your work that will suffer.

Studies from Chicago University have shown that businesses who let their employees openly date each other are up to 15% less productive than businesses who keep strict anti-dating policies in place.

If you’re still not convinced that interoffice dating should be a no-go, below are a few public examples of dating co-workers turning sour.

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Your Ex Has Moved On And You Haven’t: How To Deal

Posted on January 5, 2012 by Woods

It’s hard having to deal with an ex… Especially if you’re not ready to have it set in stone that they are your ex. It’s not uncommon for a couple to break up, only to have one half move on and one half regretting the break-up.

If your ex is moved on and you’re stuck in the past, it’s time to get on with your life! E-stalking the new girl he’s dating and crying while re-watching The Notebook for the fifth time this week with your two besties Ben and Jerry isn’t going to do you any favors. Instead of helping you move on, it’s going to hold you back from any sort of emotional progress.

If you’ve already done your allowed two days of crying that your ex has moved on, it’s time to put your big-girl pants back on and get back to your regular life! Here are a few fool-proof ways to get your love-life back on track after your officially losing your ex.

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How To Fulfill Your New Years Resolution Of Having More Sex

Posted on January 3, 2012 by Quinn

It’s that time of year again– Everyone’s hopes are high thanks to the promise of a new year, people everywhere are looking towards the new year with new hopes, and millions of people around the world have set new goals for themselves to reach in 2012. If your resolution is to have more sex this year, then you’re in good company. over 90% of resolutions are split between three goals: lose weight, save money, and get laid!

If you’re among that 90% and you’re looking to get a little more action between the sheets than you did last year, there’s no better time then the present to make it happen!

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Holiday Role Play, Anyone?

Posted on December 16, 2011 by Woods

December is a great time to have a good time! Everyone’s in the holiday spirit, and those who aren’t in the spirit could probably use a little cheering up. Either way, people around the world want to have sex! It’s the perfect opportunity to spread the holiday cheer while having a little fun.

And what better way to get people excited for the season than for a little bedroom holiday role play?

Whether you’re a newbie to the role play scene or you’re a seasoned vet, there’s a sexy little number you can put on and feel comfortable with in the bedroom.

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Going Through A Divorce? Here’s What Not To Do When Dating Online During A Divorce

Is The Media Going Overboard With Making Women Feel Bad About Their Bodies?

5 Most Common Things Couples Cut Out

Three Sexy Things To Do Before The Week Is Done

Sex Tips From The World’s Most Trusted Source: Oprah.

If your partner can’t satisfy you, should you move on?

Continue reading →

Don’t Fish In The Company Pool

Your Ex Has Moved On And You Haven’t: How To Deal

Continue reading →

How To Fulfill Your New Years Resolution Of Having More Sex

Holiday Role Play, Anyone?

If your partner can’t satisfy you, should you move on?

If your partner can’t satisfy you, should you move on?