Imagine sitting at work, hearing your phone vibrate on your desk, checking your messages and reading the most mind-blowing, erection-inducing, heart-rate-increasing message you’ve ever gotten. No warning, no reason– Simply a message letting you know that someone has you on their mind in the raunchiest way possible.
Sexting can take your love life to the next level. Instead of enjoying the heat only when you’re in the moment, you can tease and please whoever you want, from wherever you want, whenever you want. But for those of us untrained in the world of dirty-talk, sexting can feel more like a chore than a luxury, and the task can be even more daunting if you’re shy.
Like most activities, sexting can be broken down into categories that you can follow to ensure that you’re having a good time, not a challenging one.
Know your audience
You wouldn’t tell a drug joke to a police officer, and you wouldn’t tell your boss about how your ‘flu’ was actually a two-day hang over. There’s always a line between appropriate and inappropriate when it comes to different people, so take a minute to think about who you’re targeting your sext to before you hit ‘send’. What do they like in bed? Are they kinky enough to send what you’re really thinking? Are they even the kind of person who would want to receive a sexually driven text? Think about who you’re planning on digitally seducing before you go for it.
What’s your goal?
So you know you want to send them a sext, but what do you want to come of it? Are you looking to start a steamy conversation, or do you want to get them so riled up that they’ll make a plan to head to your place as soon as they’re available? Think about what you want the outcome to be before you start the chat. If you want to keep it digital, start your convo with a question. “Do you know what I was just thinking about” is a simple and effective way to gain their attention. When they respond with the inevitable “What?”, you can turn up the heat. “What it would be like to lick honey all over your naked body,” makes things instantly hot and is almost impossible to not promptly respond to. On the other side, if you’re looking for your sext to lead to action a little more personal, you can start the conversation with a suggestion instead of a thought. “I just made a little trip to the grocery store and picked up honey. Come by my place and help me get good use out of them.” It’s hot, it’s direct, and it’s much more appealing to the recipient than the standard “Are you free to hookup tonight?” text. Continue reading
