Self-confidence plays a key part of the adult dating game. If you don’t have self-confidence, you simply won’t win the game.
The problem with that is a lot of people lack self-confidence. Whether it’s because of their career (or lack thereof), their looks, or their personality in general, the world seems to be in a poor state of confidence. If you’re looking for love online but are having a hard time keeping your head up, we’re here to give you the easiest 5 steps you can take to being more interesting and boost your confidence!
- HAVE INTERESTS
You’d be surprised at how many people skip this simple step. Your profile is normally the first impression someone gets about you online. What do you think is going to happen when yours reads the exact same as someone else, with the exact same favorite television shows, the exact same weekend routine of going out with friends, and the exact same vanilla preferences on everything else in your life? You’re going to get lumped in the same reject pile as everyone else. You need to stand out when dating online! Cookie-cutter information on your profiles isn’t going to work. If you have interests that are unique, you already have a better chance at being more interesting than most people online. Instead of listing things like movies and reading that everyone mentions in your profile, mention the things that make you you! Play ukulele in your free time? On a dragon boat rowing team? Record your own movie scores? All of the little quirks you think make you isolated are actually the things that will make you stand out! Let people in on those activities that are uniquely you. - HAVE A UNIQUE OPINION
Agreeing with everyone may keep the peace, but it’s one of the things that’s keeping you boring. Opposites attract for a reason, and that’s because individuals like being intellectuality stimulated. People want a chance to think outside the box and challenge other people’s opinions, which is why heated conversations are some of the most passionate. Take the current ending of the NBA lock out for example. Everyone and their mothers are glad that the lockout has ended, but if you’re talking to a sports fan, it might be fun for them to hear you talk about why they shouldn’t have ended it so soon. Having the opinion that they players should have held out for 51% BRI and a soft salary cap with solid examples to back up your reasoning will give them a great and interesting conversation. Now, this isn’t to say you should go out and Google the stats of the lock out, but you should educate yourself with a devils-advocate opinion to strike a great debate for next time you’re talking with someone. - BE SHOCKINGLY HONEST
It takes a lot of confidence to be confident, but it doesn’t take much to fake it! How many times have you been sitting with someone and thought, “This might be the most enjoyable conversation I’ve ever had”? Or “I can’t get over how beautiful this person is”? Next time you’re struck with a realization like that, voice it! It won’t only make you seem like you’re full of confidence (which will make you instantly more attractive), but it will put you in a different light in their mind. Blowing somebody away with a boldly honest statement will have them thinking you’re many things, but boring won’t be one of them. - KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT ANYTHING
Everyone wants to have the chance to hear someone speak on a subject they’re experts on. If you YouTube any industry leaders like Steve Jobs, Larry King or Dr. Drew, you’ll see they have millions of views on any given video. Why? Because it’s interesting to hear someone talk about something they know everything about. You don’t have to go out and become a trivia expert on any given subject, but honing your knowledge on something you’re passionate about will make you very interesting to hear speak about it. Take something you love and become an expert! - KEEP AN OPEN MIND
Yes it’s nice to have your routines and yes you did hate cheesecake that one time you had it and, yes, the 1996 Yankee line-up is the greatest baseball team of all times, but minds are great because they’re so easily changeable! If you’re out to dinner and someone suggests you try the cheesecake, then try the cheesecake! Who cares if you didn’t like it before, it may be different for you this time around! Just because you like something doesn’t mean you can’t keep an open mind and appreciate things other people like. A willingness to try anything will keep you off the boring list!