There’s a thin line between what you should and what you shouldn’t be saying while having sex. While the right thing can add a little spice to the night, the wrong thing can ruin the mood altogether.
A study published by the UK version of Cosmopolitan Magazine stated that 85% of men not only like when their women try their hand at dirty talk in bed, but they prefer it! While most of the sexual pleasure from women is visual (which is why a candle lit room can actually increase a woman’s orgasm), men’s sexual sensors stem from sounds. Something as simple as a moan or as grand as declaring how much you’re enjoying your time in bed can make your experience more enjoyable for the male.
If you’re going to try your hand at getting raunchy with your words in the bedroom, you’re going to want to know our Sexperts dos and don’ts of dirty talk!
Don’t: “I can’t believe how wet you get me.”
Unless he actually is getting you wet, don’t say he is! Just like you can tell if he’s at his hardest, he can tell if you’re really as wet as you say you are. Dirty talk is nothing unless you have the proof to back it up! Saying you’re getting wet when you’re not will make him feel pitied more than he feels turned on.
Do: “I love that, do it again…”
If he did something you like, let him know! Telling him you’re enjoying what he’s doing with his tongue won’t only get you more of it, but it will give him a much appreciated ego boost. Take what he’s doing and use it to let him know exactly what you like about what he does to you!
Don’t: “This is the biggest penis I’ve ever seen.”
Although this is the most commonly used phrase when dirty talking, it’s completely unwanted by men. The first problem is that men spend most of their athletic lives in change rooms mentally comparing themselves to other guys. If he’s anything around average, he’s going to know you’re simply stroking his ego with your compliment. If on the off chance your compliment is genuine, he’s going to start to wonder exactly what you’re comparing him to. Just how many penises have you seen before? Guys don’t want to think about you having relations with other men while in bed with them, and saying this is a guarantee to put that visual in his mind.
Do: “I want it harder!”
Guys go crazy when you tell them you want it to be given to you harder. It’s every man’s dream to have rough sex with a girl he’s into, and giving him the go-ahead while in the sack is enough to drive him wild!
Don’t: “Lick my P*ssy, f*cker!”
When you start to use terms that you’ve seen in a porn before, it goes from sexy to trashy. Just because he wants to hear you get dirty doesn’t mean he wants to see you turn into Jenna Jamison! Keep your dirty talk rated R, not rated XXX.
Even the sweet and unassuming guys want to get in on the dirty talk action every now and then! Take our Sexperts tips and keep it classy while getting hot.