It’s hard having to deal with an ex… Especially if you’re not ready to have it set in stone that they are your ex. It’s not uncommon for a couple to break up, only to have one half move on and one half regretting the break-up.

If your ex is moved on and you’re stuck in the past, it’s time to get on with your life! E-stalking the new girl he’s dating and crying while re-watching The Notebook for the fifth time this week with your two besties Ben and Jerry isn’t going to do you any favors. Instead of helping you move on, it’s going to hold you back from any sort of emotional progress.

If you’ve already done your allowed two days of crying that your ex has moved on, it’s time to put your big-girl pants back on and get back to your regular life! Here are a few fool-proof ways to get your love-life back on track after your officially losing your ex.

Keep Yourself Booked

It’s not enough to just putt around your house. You actually have to put an effort into keeping your mind off things! Schedule time with your friends to get together, catch up, go out, see a movie… Whatever you can do that will keep your mind in the present, not in the past. Spending time by yourself gives your mind the opportunity to wander. Book things for yourself that are sure to keep your mind off your ex.

Get Back In The Game!

Let’s face it: If he’s moved on, there’s no reason you shouldn’t be able to as well! Round up your friends, doll yourself up, get out there and let loose. You don’t have to bring anyone home– In fact, you don’t even have to talk to anyone if you don’t want to! But you’re never going to catch a fish if you don’t visit the watering hole. Getting out there won’t only open the door to meeting potential suitors, but it will boost your confidence knowing that you’re wanted by someone, even if it’s not your ex.

Feel Good About Yourself

If you’re like the other 99% of the world, you’ve shed a few tears. Most likely enough tears to make your eyes red and puffy. And to prevent you from from doing your make up. And seriously, who likes getting dressed properly when they’ve been crying? Break-ups can make you all sorts of messy. Getting back to your best you will be the first big step you can take towards feeling good about your life again. Looks aren’t everything, but it’s hard to stay confident when you’re in sweats every day. Spend time getting healthy– Both inside and out. Start eating properly, drink enough water, and spend time on your outward appearance to help you feel better about yourself.

Treat Yourself!

Going through a break-up is enough to weaken even the strongest of people. When going through a rocky time, you need to do whatever it takes to raise your spirits. Whether that’s joining that yoga class you’ve had your eye on or finally buying that French Connection dress that you couldn’t quite justify spending $400 on, go out and treat yourself! It’s the little things that make you happy, and the little things are what make up the big things. If you wake up and realize you’d really rather go for a walk around the city instead of going into work that day, call in sick. We all know you should treat others how you want to be treated, but sometimes you have to turn on the selfish switch and treat yourself the way you want to be treated!

Your ex having a new love interest is the end of that chapter in your love life, but it’s not the end of the book! Picking yourself up and turning the page isn’t easy, but with these four tips, it’s far from impossible.