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One of the most common mistakes people make in the bedroom is try to emulate the moves and actions they see in porn. Although watching others in sexual situations can be an extremely educational way to get new ideas for positions and stimulants you otherwise would have never been introduced to, porn is by no means a place to learn how to safely and properly explore those positions.

If you’re thinking about trying anal sex for the first time, you can’t simply cruise a porn site for a few backdoor videos and assume you’re good to go. You need preparation, education, and most importantly, the right products to help you along.

Our Sexperts have the best tips and tricks you need before trying anal for the first time.

Before You Can Play, You Need The Equipment

Just as one can’t jump into a pool without first learning how to swim, one can’t start having anal sex until they’re fully prepared. The first thing you need to do is head to an adult toy store and get the essentials: a butt plug or anal beads, condoms, and lube. Each has its own purpose, and each is as important as the other.

Condoms are the simplest on the list. There is no specific kind you need to get, but whatever you do, don’t attempt intercourse without one! Not only does it make the ride smoother, it protects the man from getting feces on his member.

Then comes the lube. A thick, water-based lube is the most efficient for anal sex. It helps reduce friction and unlike oily lubes, they won’t quickly wear off when the action gets going. And no matter how sexy you think it may be, do not opt for a warming lube! The heating sensation may feel good during vaginal intercourse, but for anal sex (especially first-time anal sex) it can be a painful experience.

The last item may be the most important of all: The stretcher. Whether you’re comfortable buying a butt plug or anal beads, you need something that can assist you in stretching your rectum. These toys are specifically designed to easily and comfortably get your body familiar with the feeling of anal intercourse. Unlike a vagina, an anus isn’t constructed to adapt to a foreign object entering it. You need to gently and slowly get your body used to it, and these toys are properly constructed to do just that. Whether you take days or weeks to help your body adjust, they stretch the muscle to the point that constant penetration is a comfortable act.

Drink The Glass Before Your Pour Another

The scariest thought for most people who are popping their backdoor cherry is having an embarrassing feces incident. Much like you can’t poor a drink in your glass when it’s already full, you can’t put a penis in your rectum when it’s already full. Going to the bathroom is one of the most important things to do before having anal sex.

Relax!

The main cause for pain during intercourse is self inflicted. Failing to relax your rectum muscles will cause excess friction between his genitals and your entrance, which can be extremely painful. Stay relaxed as he enters you and as he thrusts.

Don’t Get Drunk To Make It Easier

Some people tend to think that they’re invincible when they’re drunk. While that feeling may make you more relaxed during sex, it can impair your ability to judge your pain threshold. When you’re drunk, you feel less pain which can cause you to fail to stop intercourse if you tear. Stay sober to stay safe.

Go slow!

This is the biggest mistake most first-time anal participants do wrong. Most anal sex in porn is all about going fast and hard, but that in no way should be your goal. Take it slow, go in gently, and even if you start getting used to the penetration, keep it easy!

Porn can be a great way to get you both in the mood, but other than the act itself, don’t take anal tips from the videos you watch! Stick with our Sexperts advice and you’ll have an enjoyable first time.