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November and December are the two months that see the most traffic on free dating sites, and you know what that means– The more people there are on dating sites, the more people there are on dates. But along with the holidays comes the standard holiday pressure: No one wants to be alone.

It’s not finding a date on an online dating site that’s the hard part, it’s keeping them around after the first encounter, but lucky for us author Amber Madison has a new book that’s helping you navigate the end of your first date to ensure it leads to a second.

Madison’s newest best seller Are All Guys Assholes? discusses a study she conducted with 1000 men across America where she questioned them about their love and dating lives. Among the staggering facts she shares (who knew most guys actually like giving oral sex?!), she revealed that 87% of men are more likely to call a woman for a second date if she sends him a flirty and fun text message after the first.

Cosmopolitan magazine got their hands on Madison’s study and decided to set up a cheat sheet as to what to say in your text depending on the type of date you had to guarantee you’ll be headed for a second one.

Here are some of our favorite text tips to catch yourself a reoccurring date during December:

After a fun date: Going to a sporting event

I still can’t believe they lost by 10. Next time I’m changing who I cheer for!

Guys love it when a girl takes interest in his hobbies, and sports are a really easy way to show that interest. Let him know that your enthusiasm for the game didn’t end with the last buzzer! Dropping a flirty little hint that you might just root against his team next time not only acts as a flirty way to start a conversation via text, but it also plants the idea in his head that having a second date is necessary.

After a classic date: Dinner and drinks

Thanks for the great dinner last night! I’m still laughing about your spilled coffee story.

Letting him know you still have him on your mind in a casual way will give him the idea that you’re not only considerate, but pointing out a specific story will make him think that the two of you made a solid connection.

After a messy night: You met and made out

You being a great kisser and a nice guy are the only two things I remember from last night.

Everyone has a messy night where they make out with a random and wake up to find his number written on their forearm in Sharpie marker. If you like the guy and want to see him again, make light of the situation! Apologizing for your behavior will make him think that the two of you did something wrong, so simply make note that although you had a few too many, you had a great time while doing it!

After a big risk: You finally went out with your hot co-worker

It’s great to know you’re interested in things other than accounting. We’ll have to check out that hiking trail you were talking about soon!

Going out with a co-worker always comes with complications, but you can keep things appropriate. Send him a message that lets him know you enjoyed spending time with him outside of work, and make note that you’ve took interested in something he suggested. It makes for an easy transition from work-buddy to date #2!

The follow-up after the date is almost as important as the date itself, so make your words have an impact! Take these easy and flirty tips and you’ll have a date for the holidays in no time.