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When you have the luxury of having a friend with benefits, you need to insure you’re not going to mess it up. Having someone who’s committed to sleeping with you but doesn’t make you do ‘couple’ activities is the ultimate scenario, but it’s easy to ruin.

If you want to insure that you’re not going to scare away your FWB with something you say, here are the 5 topics you should avoid!

“Who’s that girl you’re texting??”
The point of keeping around a buddy to sleep with is to avoid the emotional attachments that come with conventional relationships, and jealousy is definitely one of the emotions people want to avoid. If you find yourself bordering on jealousy when it comes to your sex partner, take a moment to step back and ask yourself why you’re feeling this way. If you’re caring about what they’re doing with other people, chances are you’re more emotionally invested in them than you’d like to admit. If you want them to know it bothers you that they’re flirting with other people, you’re going to have to be ready to cut the friends with benefit ties and step into relationship territory. If you want to keep things the way they are, then you’re going to have to keep your jealousy concealed!

“Maybe you should spend less money going out so you can start saving it.”
Nothing crosses the line from ‘we’re sleeping together’ to ‘I’m now a crucial part of your life’ like talking about finances. Telling someone they need to think about saving their money is another way of saying that you’re planning on being in their future and would prefer for them to not spend the savings you’ll hopefully share one day. Money is a touchy subject for almost anyone, so keeping yourself out of their bank accounts is an easy way to ensure you won’t be stepping on any toes.

“I’m really not feeling in the mood. Let’s just hang out tonight.”
If your one job in the friendship is to put out, don’t expect them to make plans without getting any action! Having a bang buddy is an unspoken agreement that you’re there for nothing more than intimate interactions, so if you’re not going to provide them, you shouldn’t expect the companionship the rest of the relationship comes with. If you’re not going to put out, don’t expect to hang out.

“My friends really want to meet you…”
Meeting the friends is a boyfriends job. It’s nerve wracking, it’s personal, and it’s something that your sex partners shouldn’t have to do. Introducing a partner to your friends is an open invitation for them to evaluate how compatible the two of you are, but when your relationship is about chemistry and not compatibility, there’s no need to have a formal meet-and-greet with your besties. It’s fine to have them hang out with you outside the bedroom, but having him come out specifically so your friends can get an idea of who he is is a big no-no.

“Could you imagine what our kids would look like? They’d be adorable!”
The absolute last thing a bang buddy wants to think about is what your children would look like should you have any. Friends with benefits is all about stressless sex, and adding the idea of an unwanted pregnancy is the ultimate stresser. His mind will instantly go from ‘this set up is great’ to ‘what if the condom breaks?!’ If you want them to stay in your bed, then you have to keep kids out of their mind!

There’s a thin line between being friends with benefits and being on the boarder of a relationship. If you want to prevent scaring them off, you need to make sure you’re avoiding these topics.